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Posted by: arts728
Posted on: 2004-10-23 15:35:34
When I Became Preg. This Is When My Life fillings and thoughs just vanished. I Became Misrible. Wishing It To Be Over. And After The Baby Came. All Else Brock Out. My Life Became Hell. I Live With Hus. And MLW. So Hub. Isn't Moving Out. Its Along Story. So My Life Isn't Happy. With MLWs Rules. In How To Take Care Of My Dau. is 9m. Old. And I Am Still Dilling With The Stress. She Adds On Me. Its Driveing Me To The Point Of A Divores. By The Way Im From Tx. And We All Live In Germany. I Have Been Here Sence 2001. Any One With Advice Thanks.
Posted by: arts728
Posted on: 2004-10-23 15:35:34
When I Became Preg. This Is When My Life fillings and thoughs just vanished. I Became Misrible. Wishing It To Be Over. And After The Baby Came. All Else Brock Out. My Life Became Hell. I Live With Hus. And MLW. So Hub. Isn't Moving Out. Its Along Story. So My Life Isn't Happy. With MLWs Rules. In How To Take Care Of My Dau. is 9m. Old. And I Am Still Dilling With The Stress. She Adds On Me. Its Driveing Me To The Point Of A Divores. By The Way Im From Tx. And We All Live In Germany. I Have Been Here Sence 2001. Any One With Advice Thanks.
arts728
Posted by: jettav
Posted on: 2004-10-23 19:14:08
Sounds like you really are miserable and husband isn't there helping and supporting you. I believe that when two people marry, they become one which means they no longer need to cling to parents but to one another. A marriage takes 2 and both should be doing their part in making the marriage work. Sounds like your husband is too much of a mama's boy and doesn't plan on making her second next to you. I do believe in family and believe every one should be able to love and to respect one another and it sounds like MIL hasn't accepted the fact that her son is married and has responsibilities to his wife and children, kinda sounds like she is a control freak and until some one breaks that cycle, it is gonna keep up. I don't believe in divorce for I do believe marriage is meant to stay together but I also believe as I said, it takes 2, If you have done every thing in your power to keep your marriage together, I would suggest that you move maybe back to the states, you and your child and get the help that you need. I say move back becasue it sounds like MIL will do anything to interefere, It sounds like you need help and if you don't get it, you will not only hurt your self but your child as well, not that you would purposely do something but if you are as miserable as you say, it will get worse. Please seek the help that you need, for the sake of you and your child. You deserve to be happy and you owe it to your child.
Posted by: jettav
Posted on: 2004-10-23 19:14:08
Sounds like you really are miserable and husband isn't there helping and supporting you. I believe that when two people marry, they become one which means they no longer need to cling to parents but to one another. A marriage takes 2 and both should be doing their part in making the marriage work. Sounds like your husband is too much of a mama's boy and doesn't plan on making her second next to you. I do believe in family and believe every one should be able to love and to respect one another and it sounds like MIL hasn't accepted the fact that her son is married and has responsibilities to his wife and children, kinda sounds like she is a control freak and until some one breaks that cycle, it is gonna keep up. I don't believe in divorce for I do believe marriage is meant to stay together but I also believe as I said, it takes 2, If you have done every thing in your power to keep your marriage together, I would suggest that you move maybe back to the states, you and your child and get the help that you need. I say move back becasue it sounds like MIL will do anything to interefere, It sounds like you need help and if you don't get it, you will not only hurt your self but your child as well, not that you would purposely do something but if you are as miserable as you say, it will get worse. Please seek the help that you need, for the sake of you and your child. You deserve to be happy and you owe it to your child.
Online PPD Support
Posted by: ppdjess
Posted on: 2004-10-23 19:22:18
If you are a mom suffering from a postpartum mood disorder, please come to www.ppdsupportpage.com and check out the discussion boards. We are affiliated with Postpartum Support International and are the largest online support resource for women suffering from mood disorders.
You are not alone, this is not your fault, and you CAN FEEL BETTER!
Love and Hugs,
Jess
Posted by: ppdjess
Posted on: 2004-10-23 19:22:18
If you are a mom suffering from a postpartum mood disorder, please come to www.ppdsupportpage.com and check out the discussion boards. We are affiliated with Postpartum Support International and are the largest online support resource for women suffering from mood disorders.
You are not alone, this is not your fault, and you CAN FEEL BETTER!
Love and Hugs,
Jess
Posted by: tlova6
Posted on: 2004-10-27 14:42:50
I was on anti depressant before i got pregnant and went off a few months before so it would be out of my system.....slowly but surely i felt my depression and anxiety coming back. I am now 7 months pregnant and am not excited like everyone thinks i should be. My husband has never understood or accepted the fact that i even needed pills to begin with and now that i have mentioned i will probably have PPD he is almost angry and in denial. am i waisting my time trying to talk to him about this? What should i do.....noone thinks this is real?
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ABOUT ANTI DEPRESSANTS
Posted by: nona72
Posted on: 2004-10-28 16:15:09
I HAD A SON 4 YRS AGO & I BELIEVE I HAD PPD, AND ALSO VERY HIGH ANXIETY. HE WAS COLLICKY FOR THE 1ST 4 MTS. OF HIS LIFE, AND IT WAS A NIGHTMARE. I LIVED 200 MILES AWAY FROM MY FRIENDS & FAMILY.I SPOKE W/ MY OB @ MY 6 WK CHECK UP & THEY SAID I HAD PPD AND PUT ME ON PAXIL. I TOOK IT FOR 6 MTS. AND THE ENTIRE TIME I FELT LIKE A BAD ACID TRIP. I THEN WENT TO A M.D. WHO DIAGNOSED ME W/ STRESS AND ANXIETY. HE THEN PUT ME ON XANAX. IT HELPED A TON!!!!! I HOPE YOU START GETTING EXCITED ABOUT YOUR NEW BABY SOON, BUT DON'T DWELL ON HAVING PPD. IF YOU DON'T PLAN ON BREASTFEEDING, GO TO THE DOCTOR AFTER YOU GIVE BIRTH, AND GET THE PROPER DIAGNOSIS.THEY MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP W/ MEDS. AS FAR AS YOUR HUSBAND NOT UNDERSTANDING, MAYBE GET SOME INFO ON THIS SO HE CAN LEARN A LITTLE. NONA72. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK MORE, FEEL FREE TO E-MAIL ME.
Posted by: nona72
Posted on: 2004-10-28 16:15:09
I HAD A SON 4 YRS AGO & I BELIEVE I HAD PPD, AND ALSO VERY HIGH ANXIETY. HE WAS COLLICKY FOR THE 1ST 4 MTS. OF HIS LIFE, AND IT WAS A NIGHTMARE. I LIVED 200 MILES AWAY FROM MY FRIENDS & FAMILY.I SPOKE W/ MY OB @ MY 6 WK CHECK UP & THEY SAID I HAD PPD AND PUT ME ON PAXIL. I TOOK IT FOR 6 MTS. AND THE ENTIRE TIME I FELT LIKE A BAD ACID TRIP. I THEN WENT TO A M.D. WHO DIAGNOSED ME W/ STRESS AND ANXIETY. HE THEN PUT ME ON XANAX. IT HELPED A TON!!!!! I HOPE YOU START GETTING EXCITED ABOUT YOUR NEW BABY SOON, BUT DON'T DWELL ON HAVING PPD. IF YOU DON'T PLAN ON BREASTFEEDING, GO TO THE DOCTOR AFTER YOU GIVE BIRTH, AND GET THE PROPER DIAGNOSIS.THEY MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP W/ MEDS. AS FAR AS YOUR HUSBAND NOT UNDERSTANDING, MAYBE GET SOME INFO ON THIS SO HE CAN LEARN A LITTLE. NONA72. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK MORE, FEEL FREE TO E-MAIL ME.
hang in there
Posted by: jenturner3
Posted on: 2004-10-25 08:39:44
DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT move back to the states as another suggested. You are a military spouse and there is help for you. I am also a spouse living in Germany tell me where you are and I will get you the help you need to get through this. First we deal with you and the baby and then everything else will fall into place. Don't dispare...you are not alone. comment back so I can find you.....
Posted by: jenturner3
Posted on: 2004-10-25 08:39:44
DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT move back to the states as another suggested. You are a military spouse and there is help for you. I am also a spouse living in Germany tell me where you are and I will get you the help you need to get through this. First we deal with you and the baby and then everything else will fall into place. Don't dispare...you are not alone. comment back so I can find you.....
get help
Posted by: 3boys4leah
Posted on: 2004-10-25 08:39:44
it sounds like you have some symptoms of depression, either clinical and/or situational. It also sounds like you have issues with your marriage that need to be worked out. I am a nurse with depression and going through a divorce because my husband couldn't leave his mother (she's also German). A man needs to leave his mother and dedicate himself to his wife and children and behave like an adult. But you also have an obligation to take care of your health and behave like a mother a wife and an adult too. Good luck and God Bless. Leah
Posted by: 3boys4leah
Posted on: 2004-10-25 08:39:44
it sounds like you have some symptoms of depression, either clinical and/or situational. It also sounds like you have issues with your marriage that need to be worked out. I am a nurse with depression and going through a divorce because my husband couldn't leave his mother (she's also German). A man needs to leave his mother and dedicate himself to his wife and children and behave like an adult. But you also have an obligation to take care of your health and behave like a mother a wife and an adult too. Good luck and God Bless. Leah
Thank U 3boys4leah
Posted by: arts728
Posted on: 2004-10-25 13:59:49
Well Hub. Says His Mom Is Paying For The House With Her Retiorment Money. And He Says He Dosen't Make Enuff Money.Funny Thing Here Wish I Knew They Are Big Talkers About Polatics. These 2 Will Talk For Hours. I Care Lass About PT. Wish I Could Put A Wall Between The 2. Spe. In The Basment. Thats Where The 2 Set And Talk For Hours. Well I Guess U Know What German Homes Look Like. Thank U. Amanda728@aol.com
Posted by: arts728
Posted on: 2004-10-25 13:59:49
Well Hub. Says His Mom Is Paying For The House With Her Retiorment Money. And He Says He Dosen't Make Enuff Money.Funny Thing Here Wish I Knew They Are Big Talkers About Polatics. These 2 Will Talk For Hours. I Care Lass About PT. Wish I Could Put A Wall Between The 2. Spe. In The Basment. Thats Where The 2 Set And Talk For Hours. Well I Guess U Know What German Homes Look Like. Thank U. Amanda728@aol.com
Importance of Seeking Medical Treatment
Posted by: cookiel
Posted on: 2004-10-26 16:50:28
Yesterday's show regarding Postpartum Depression was excellent. So many people are unaware of this very serious problem and when it hits, they are confused as to what they are dealing with or what to do about it. I am an RN and have worked in the field of Psychiatry for years. I was disappointed in one aspect of the show. There was barely any mention of seeking medical treatment immediately when problems begin to surface.It seemed that more emphasis was placed on talking to others. A couple of the gals on the show briefly mentioned taking meds but I felt that more emphasis should have been made on getting to your doctor at the very beginning. So many mothers and families could experience much less suffering and possible tragedy if it were treated immediately with medical intervention such as medication. The show was good but I think that it would have been more helpful to emphasize seeking medical treatment and then possibly counseling.
Posted by: cookiel
Posted on: 2004-10-26 16:50:28
Yesterday's show regarding Postpartum Depression was excellent. So many people are unaware of this very serious problem and when it hits, they are confused as to what they are dealing with or what to do about it. I am an RN and have worked in the field of Psychiatry for years. I was disappointed in one aspect of the show. There was barely any mention of seeking medical treatment immediately when problems begin to surface.It seemed that more emphasis was placed on talking to others. A couple of the gals on the show briefly mentioned taking meds but I felt that more emphasis should have been made on getting to your doctor at the very beginning. So many mothers and families could experience much less suffering and possible tragedy if it were treated immediately with medical intervention such as medication. The show was good but I think that it would have been more helpful to emphasize seeking medical treatment and then possibly counseling.
jfly to cookiel
Posted by: jfly23
Posted on: 2004-10-26 18:02:04
Cookiel
I agree with your post.I suffer with PPD and for a long time I did not seek medical attention. Looking back I so wish that I had gone to see a doctor right in the beginning.PPD changed me, my life and the lives of my husband and 2 kids. It is SOO important to get medical treatment. I still have bad days, however knowing that I see my Dr. regularly and attending counselling for the first time I can see that I am going in the right direction. If anyone would like to contact me..by all means.
Good luck to each of you..
Posted by: jfly23
Posted on: 2004-10-26 18:02:04
Cookiel
I agree with your post.I suffer with PPD and for a long time I did not seek medical attention. Looking back I so wish that I had gone to see a doctor right in the beginning.PPD changed me, my life and the lives of my husband and 2 kids. It is SOO important to get medical treatment. I still have bad days, however knowing that I see my Dr. regularly and attending counselling for the first time I can see that I am going in the right direction. If anyone would like to contact me..by all means.
Good luck to each of you..
Posted by: psugal
Posted on: 2004-10-27 21:00:30
So very, very true. If I had sought medical attention sooner, I would not have ended up in a psychiatric center for a week. It got too far along before I got help. The doctors say if i had started medication sooner, I wouldn't have gotten so bad.
I agree!
Posted by: kcsews
Posted on: 2004-10-28 08:32:30
Most definitely agree with you, Cookie...
I have never had kids but I sure hit bottom after my hysterectomy at 36yrs old. I believe they need to stress the EXTREME importance of hormonal imbalance! I am on hormone replacement therapy and discovered how much they work for me when I went out of town for a long weekend and forgot my hormones... by the 3rd day I was a balling mess and felt stupid that I couldn't control my mood and also couldn't come up with a reason for living at all.... I was scared and my husband learned the power of hormones.
Hormonal imbalance is scary as hell! You don't recognize your own thoughts and seemingly can't control a darn thing. I still think there are even a lot of doctors who don't realize the gravity of a hormonal imbalance in women.... but it should be looked into with greater understanding and respect.
Having a child causes tremendous changes to a woman's body as does a hysterectomy and hormones play a big role with both... we need so many more people to recognize this fact and be able to find the medical help they need.... sooner than later!
Posted by: kcsews
Posted on: 2004-10-28 08:32:30
Most definitely agree with you, Cookie...
I have never had kids but I sure hit bottom after my hysterectomy at 36yrs old. I believe they need to stress the EXTREME importance of hormonal imbalance! I am on hormone replacement therapy and discovered how much they work for me when I went out of town for a long weekend and forgot my hormones... by the 3rd day I was a balling mess and felt stupid that I couldn't control my mood and also couldn't come up with a reason for living at all.... I was scared and my husband learned the power of hormones.
Hormonal imbalance is scary as hell! You don't recognize your own thoughts and seemingly can't control a darn thing. I still think there are even a lot of doctors who don't realize the gravity of a hormonal imbalance in women.... but it should be looked into with greater understanding and respect.
Having a child causes tremendous changes to a woman's body as does a hysterectomy and hormones play a big role with both... we need so many more people to recognize this fact and be able to find the medical help they need.... sooner than later!
I Agree!
Posted by: alisamc3
Posted on: 2004-10-28 15:54:23
I agree with Cookiel. I have a medical background and a degree in psychology PLUS I suffered just last year with PPD and it was the most horrible feeling (feelings) that I have ever encountered. I cried everyday, all day long, called my husband home from work to be with me, had thoughts of suicide, had "what if" thoughts about my baby dying, and was intensely afraid that something would hapen to my husband and I would be alone with this new baby, not knowing what to do. I could not eat, sleep, go out, or talk to anyone without breaking into tears. Thank goodness I have a very supportive husband and extended family & friends. They helped me to get through it and kept encouraging me to bond with my baby boy during my rational moments. I waited 6 weeks to get help and I would urge any woman with symptoms to get medical treatment asap after delivery. If you feel "blue" for a couple weeks after you deliver your child - that may not be PPD but any longer than that and you should see a Physician, preferably a psychiatrist. I did, and within a week or so I was feeling better due to the meds. I also started seeing a counselor (with my husband, because this greatly involved him too) and we both felt so much better even after the first session. It's nothing to be ashamed of and you should consider yourself courageous and strong for seeking help if it should happen to you. You deserve to be happy.
I am happy to say that I am back to my normal self, and I love being a mom! I successfully nursed my son for over a year by taking Zoloft (which does not affect baby like many other antidepressants can). My son is wonderful and I have a fantastic connection to him. He's 17 months old and my husband and I are enjoying each other and our little son. We DO want another child someday but I will only do so under the careful supervision of my Psychiatrist and my OB/GYN working together on my case.
Anyone out there needing a listening ear - I've been there - I'm here to listen.
Posted by: alisamc3
Posted on: 2004-10-28 15:54:23
I agree with Cookiel. I have a medical background and a degree in psychology PLUS I suffered just last year with PPD and it was the most horrible feeling (feelings) that I have ever encountered. I cried everyday, all day long, called my husband home from work to be with me, had thoughts of suicide, had "what if" thoughts about my baby dying, and was intensely afraid that something would hapen to my husband and I would be alone with this new baby, not knowing what to do. I could not eat, sleep, go out, or talk to anyone without breaking into tears. Thank goodness I have a very supportive husband and extended family & friends. They helped me to get through it and kept encouraging me to bond with my baby boy during my rational moments. I waited 6 weeks to get help and I would urge any woman with symptoms to get medical treatment asap after delivery. If you feel "blue" for a couple weeks after you deliver your child - that may not be PPD but any longer than that and you should see a Physician, preferably a psychiatrist. I did, and within a week or so I was feeling better due to the meds. I also started seeing a counselor (with my husband, because this greatly involved him too) and we both felt so much better even after the first session. It's nothing to be ashamed of and you should consider yourself courageous and strong for seeking help if it should happen to you. You deserve to be happy.
I am happy to say that I am back to my normal self, and I love being a mom! I successfully nursed my son for over a year by taking Zoloft (which does not affect baby like many other antidepressants can). My son is wonderful and I have a fantastic connection to him. He's 17 months old and my husband and I are enjoying each other and our little son. We DO want another child someday but I will only do so under the careful supervision of my Psychiatrist and my OB/GYN working together on my case.
Anyone out there needing a listening ear - I've been there - I'm here to listen.
Question for you...
Posted by: magoogles
Posted on: 2005-01-12 22:30:09
I read your reply to one of the messages and you sound like myself. I recently went through PPD for the first time about 7 months ago. I am blessed enough to have a woderful husband, family and friends who support and continue to support me through this terrible ordeal. What I was wondering was...every time I think I am totally in the clear of PPD, I have another "down" episode that knocks me back a step. How long did it take before you were totally free of the depressive episodes and are you still on the meds for it? I am afraid this is something I will have to deal with forever and it terrifies me. We do want to have another child but I don't think I want to go through this again. -Thanks
Posted by: magoogles
Posted on: 2005-01-12 22:30:09
I read your reply to one of the messages and you sound like myself. I recently went through PPD for the first time about 7 months ago. I am blessed enough to have a woderful husband, family and friends who support and continue to support me through this terrible ordeal. What I was wondering was...every time I think I am totally in the clear of PPD, I have another "down" episode that knocks me back a step. How long did it take before you were totally free of the depressive episodes and are you still on the meds for it? I am afraid this is something I will have to deal with forever and it terrifies me. We do want to have another child but I don't think I want to go through this again. -Thanks
Definately depressed
Posted by: lilnyr
Posted on: 2004-10-25 10:00:57
HI there.
I'm a military wife as well and know that isolation you can feel especially when you're somewhere where you don't know anyone. But it may not be PPD - you may just be DEPRESSED.
You have many stressors (no family, Mom IN Law, Husband who's not available, money, etc). I'm not suggesting moving out but maybe you and baby need to go home to TX and be with your family just for awhile and your family can help you get back to 'normal'
Sometimes taking a vacation from your daily life (even for 1 day) helps. Seek counseling in the meantime so you can talk out some of your feelings and get relief
God Bless
Posted by: lilnyr
Posted on: 2004-10-25 10:00:57
HI there.
I'm a military wife as well and know that isolation you can feel especially when you're somewhere where you don't know anyone. But it may not be PPD - you may just be DEPRESSED.
You have many stressors (no family, Mom IN Law, Husband who's not available, money, etc). I'm not suggesting moving out but maybe you and baby need to go home to TX and be with your family just for awhile and your family can help you get back to 'normal'
Sometimes taking a vacation from your daily life (even for 1 day) helps. Seek counseling in the meantime so you can talk out some of your feelings and get relief
God Bless
Posted by: crbkab
Posted on: 2004-10-25 10:40:46
It is very clear that there is a lot of things happening at once. Some of them might need fixing, but I do not think you should do anything until you see someone locally to help you sort through your emotions. When I first had children I had no idea hormones and emotions was something else I had to deal with. We now know it is real and not us going crazy. When I am in crisis and start to feel like I am spinning in circles I stop everything. My best advice is to build a support system of people that can help the process. I have moved so much and have landed in a part of the US that I do not know a single person.
A few places I have started was a church that had a great nursery. I enjoy singing and used the nursery as a break for some clarity. I did attend a few times before I knew it was safe. Another place I went was to the Library. It was free and I could break up the day. We have a very tight budget and church and the public library are free. Break your day up into small amounts of time to manage. I always thought that if I could make it through breakfast and bath, then lunch, then supper! Another trick I used was to take stalk of the posotives. There may not be many but 1 or 2 may be all it takes to get through another day. Like the great way that your daughter can be comforted ny you! How ausome is that to be able to make your precious baby smile or comfort them to sleep. Keep your chin up and remember no matter how crazy things get, every person has times when they feel in over there head. Best wishes and much love
I feel the same
Posted by: mom2kids68
Posted on: 2004-10-25 16:07:14
I can understand some of what you are going through. I went throught it with my son's father. I didn't want to be with him, I hated him but I stay because of my son. I went through ppd with both of my kids more with my son. I was going through stress even now I am and I have depression and anxiety attacks. So I had it hard. There was times when I thought about killing my self. My life and what I went through is a long store and that is why I understand how you feel. You feel unhappy, you feel like no one cares or want to understand. You feel like the world is out to get you and you get so mad and upset. I cry so much everynight and all I want to do is stay in bed where no one can get me. My life up to now is like living in hell. Nothing seems to go right. Looking after kids is a hard job and you get no thanks or no help.
Posted by: mom2kids68
Posted on: 2004-10-25 16:07:14
I can understand some of what you are going through. I went throught it with my son's father. I didn't want to be with him, I hated him but I stay because of my son. I went through ppd with both of my kids more with my son. I was going through stress even now I am and I have depression and anxiety attacks. So I had it hard. There was times when I thought about killing my self. My life and what I went through is a long store and that is why I understand how you feel. You feel unhappy, you feel like no one cares or want to understand. You feel like the world is out to get you and you get so mad and upset. I cry so much everynight and all I want to do is stay in bed where no one can get me. My life up to now is like living in hell. Nothing seems to go right. Looking after kids is a hard job and you get no thanks or no help.
I understand
Posted by: erbmom0704
Posted on: 2004-10-25 16:18:45
I understand how you feel as well....I am a brand new mom...my son is almost 4 months old...I am 37 so this is a life changing thing for me...there are days when all I do is cry...nothing I do is right...he hates me as his mom...I think I am doing nothing right...I am drinking to...this is the first time I have admitted this...I know I shouldn't drink and breast feed...but there are days when I feel so depressed and overwhelmed....I have no one to talk to..I feel people will judge me...
Posted by: erbmom0704
Posted on: 2004-10-25 16:18:45
I understand how you feel as well....I am a brand new mom...my son is almost 4 months old...I am 37 so this is a life changing thing for me...there are days when all I do is cry...nothing I do is right...he hates me as his mom...I think I am doing nothing right...I am drinking to...this is the first time I have admitted this...I know I shouldn't drink and breast feed...but there are days when I feel so depressed and overwhelmed....I have no one to talk to..I feel people will judge me...
This is good to talk about!
Posted by: vic2020
Posted on: 2004-10-25 18:12:55
I am almost 39 and I have 1 three yr. old and 1 one yr. old. I had PPD w/ both. First things first...your baby does NOT hate you! When my babies were very young, they couldn't make too many faces, they both would just stare at me with no expression or they would cry. This does not help at all!!! Your baby might be like mine. I felt just like you...that my baby hated me. Then one day, around 5 months they started smiling for no reason at me. Then I would start making the faces and I would get more and more reactions from them. Oh my gosh, this helped me soooo much! I have posted all over the place on this subject and in each one I mention that I went to the Dr. and got a hormone patch. I also got on anti-depressants. I had to try several kinds, some (Paxil) made me feel soooo weird I thought I was dying and even wrote out my Will. Anyway, I found one that worked and at our age I think our hormones need some adjusting after having kids!!! You ARE going thru a real shock, culturally, mentally, financially...just in every way not to mention physically...ooohhh....what happened to my body....yuck! I have to laugh because if I don't I will cry! I'm sure you know that alcohol is a depressant...people can tell you that but sometimes you just want to self-medicate! I understand...believe me! Listen, a couple glasses of wine will not, I repeat, not hurt your baby. I breastfed on pain meds (leaky disc in my back) and when I wasn't on those I would occasionally have some drinks w/ my Le Leche friends! Man, some of those ladies can drink now!!! The Le Leche League and your Dr. should tell you that your milk gets filtered out constantly and I used to "Pump & Dump" after some Margaritas but my friends in the milk league just went home and relieved themselves with their babies. I was too paranoid. They always laughed at me. Listen, everything in moderation. My Doc told me that my milk absorbs 1 percent of any drug or alcohol I ingested. Then he said what the baby absorbs is even less. Now, this does not mean that you don't have a problem w/ alcohol. I don't know, but if you are worried, talk to your doctor about it. Let me assure you, they have heard it all before and would love to help in any way! I know, I had to reach out to, well, they dragged me out! But nevertheless, I got help! Take some walks w/ baby and get that baby smiling, and you will feel a whole lot better! I'm tellin' ya...your baby should be making more faces soon! Happy ones! No one will judge you! Look how many people have posted their stories!!! You will overcome I promise and your life will be so rich w/ love...You waited to have that baby and you won't be sorry! I love having babies at my age. I had one at 20 and what a moron I was!!! I feel much better being wiser!!! Good luck and you are not alone!!!! Keep talking about it and it will work itself out!!
Posted by: vic2020
Posted on: 2004-10-25 18:12:55
I am almost 39 and I have 1 three yr. old and 1 one yr. old. I had PPD w/ both. First things first...your baby does NOT hate you! When my babies were very young, they couldn't make too many faces, they both would just stare at me with no expression or they would cry. This does not help at all!!! Your baby might be like mine. I felt just like you...that my baby hated me. Then one day, around 5 months they started smiling for no reason at me. Then I would start making the faces and I would get more and more reactions from them. Oh my gosh, this helped me soooo much! I have posted all over the place on this subject and in each one I mention that I went to the Dr. and got a hormone patch. I also got on anti-depressants. I had to try several kinds, some (Paxil) made me feel soooo weird I thought I was dying and even wrote out my Will. Anyway, I found one that worked and at our age I think our hormones need some adjusting after having kids!!! You ARE going thru a real shock, culturally, mentally, financially...just in every way not to mention physically...ooohhh....what happened to my body....yuck! I have to laugh because if I don't I will cry! I'm sure you know that alcohol is a depressant...people can tell you that but sometimes you just want to self-medicate! I understand...believe me! Listen, a couple glasses of wine will not, I repeat, not hurt your baby. I breastfed on pain meds (leaky disc in my back) and when I wasn't on those I would occasionally have some drinks w/ my Le Leche friends! Man, some of those ladies can drink now!!! The Le Leche League and your Dr. should tell you that your milk gets filtered out constantly and I used to "Pump & Dump" after some Margaritas but my friends in the milk league just went home and relieved themselves with their babies. I was too paranoid. They always laughed at me. Listen, everything in moderation. My Doc told me that my milk absorbs 1 percent of any drug or alcohol I ingested. Then he said what the baby absorbs is even less. Now, this does not mean that you don't have a problem w/ alcohol. I don't know, but if you are worried, talk to your doctor about it. Let me assure you, they have heard it all before and would love to help in any way! I know, I had to reach out to, well, they dragged me out! But nevertheless, I got help! Take some walks w/ baby and get that baby smiling, and you will feel a whole lot better! I'm tellin' ya...your baby should be making more faces soon! Happy ones! No one will judge you! Look how many people have posted their stories!!! You will overcome I promise and your life will be so rich w/ love...You waited to have that baby and you won't be sorry! I love having babies at my age. I had one at 20 and what a moron I was!!! I feel much better being wiser!!! Good luck and you are not alone!!!! Keep talking about it and it will work itself out!!
Thank You
Posted by: erbmom0704
Posted on: 2004-10-26 08:16:37
Thank you so much Vic2020....your words of encouragement made my day!! It is helpful to know that there are other women going through what I am...I would love to chat more with you...you know its rather hard to overcome this challenges when no one really understands you...once again, thank you so much...I really think medication would help me through this life changing event. Have a great day!!
Posted by: erbmom0704
Posted on: 2004-10-26 08:16:37
Thank you so much Vic2020....your words of encouragement made my day!! It is helpful to know that there are other women going through what I am...I would love to chat more with you...you know its rather hard to overcome this challenges when no one really understands you...once again, thank you so much...I really think medication would help me through this life changing event. Have a great day!!
