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Posted by: caitismom
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:19:26
My daughter is 12 years old. I, myself have ADD and I know my daughter does to. I can ask her to do something and she forgets before she even gets there. She gets good grades in school and has friends and is well behaved but can't remember to do things such as bring home homework, practice piano or do her chores. She is a good girl and I hate to put her on stimulants, but to most people she would come off as being very lazy. Do you think I am hurting my child by not medicating her?
Posted by: caitismom
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:19:26
My daughter is 12 years old. I, myself have ADD and I know my daughter does to. I can ask her to do something and she forgets before she even gets there. She gets good grades in school and has friends and is well behaved but can't remember to do things such as bring home homework, practice piano or do her chores. She is a good girl and I hate to put her on stimulants, but to most people she would come off as being very lazy. Do you think I am hurting my child by not medicating her?
Routines
Posted by: tryswe
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:51:48
From the experience I have with ADD/ADHD (friend of mine + her child, no medication)your daughter may benefit from having "homework time", "piano time" and "chore time" every day, just like she has "bed time","lunch time" etc. Maybe the important things need to be an every day routine for her to remember them? The rest doesn't matter much as long as she is a happy, healthy and good kid.
Posted by: tryswe
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:51:48
From the experience I have with ADD/ADHD (friend of mine + her child, no medication)your daughter may benefit from having "homework time", "piano time" and "chore time" every day, just like she has "bed time","lunch time" etc. Maybe the important things need to be an every day routine for her to remember them? The rest doesn't matter much as long as she is a happy, healthy and good kid.
been there
Posted by: pegwon5law
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:51:49
dear caitismom, i would think long and hard before i placed my child on medication. i personally was lost in the pharmacology world at one time.i lost many years of my life to it. being placed on medication teaches psychological dependace on medication to solve lifes problems. once on medications it's very difficult if not impossible to come off especially the antidepressants in which the psychiatrist will tell you there is no harm to these meds. also if it is a narcotic stimulant your child may become addicted. i was once addicted to xanex a major tranquilizer. it took 6 months of rehabilitation to withdraw from the drug and 18 months of severe insomnia after that. i've known an occasional RX pill addict who's first drug was ritilan/ speed. even though there are different drugs out today and the psychiatrist will tell you they are safe don't believe them. if it were my child i believe i'd put up with a lot of forgetfulness and irresponsibility before i'd turn to the pharnacolgy world of coping. she will grow out of this phase. if i can be candid let me ask, are you thinking of medicating her to make you feel comfortable or is it really out of concern for her? please no offense. only mean't to be helpful. think twice. give your daughter a chance at a drug free life. she makes good grades which actually could be affected under the influence. coming from a burn't out nurse.
Posted by: pegwon5law
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:51:49
dear caitismom, i would think long and hard before i placed my child on medication. i personally was lost in the pharmacology world at one time.i lost many years of my life to it. being placed on medication teaches psychological dependace on medication to solve lifes problems. once on medications it's very difficult if not impossible to come off especially the antidepressants in which the psychiatrist will tell you there is no harm to these meds. also if it is a narcotic stimulant your child may become addicted. i was once addicted to xanex a major tranquilizer. it took 6 months of rehabilitation to withdraw from the drug and 18 months of severe insomnia after that. i've known an occasional RX pill addict who's first drug was ritilan/ speed. even though there are different drugs out today and the psychiatrist will tell you they are safe don't believe them. if it were my child i believe i'd put up with a lot of forgetfulness and irresponsibility before i'd turn to the pharnacolgy world of coping. she will grow out of this phase. if i can be candid let me ask, are you thinking of medicating her to make you feel comfortable or is it really out of concern for her? please no offense. only mean't to be helpful. think twice. give your daughter a chance at a drug free life. she makes good grades which actually could be affected under the influence. coming from a burn't out nurse.
Caitismom
Posted by: poetmom
Posted on: 2004-10-12 10:01:53
My daughter, 14, is also ADHD. Although she is on medication, she sometimes has the memory problem as well. What we have found works for her is writing things down. If you are asking her to do something, have her write it on a little piece of paper (my dd carries a small pocket notebook just for this purpose), and then she can look at the note to know what she's supposed to do. For things like homework, chores, and practicing the piano, try using a chart, where you and she can put a checkmark or a sticker by each thing as she does it every day...no sticker, then it still needs to be done. Hope this helps!!
Posted by: poetmom
Posted on: 2004-10-12 10:01:53
My daughter, 14, is also ADHD. Although she is on medication, she sometimes has the memory problem as well. What we have found works for her is writing things down. If you are asking her to do something, have her write it on a little piece of paper (my dd carries a small pocket notebook just for this purpose), and then she can look at the note to know what she's supposed to do. For things like homework, chores, and practicing the piano, try using a chart, where you and she can put a checkmark or a sticker by each thing as she does it every day...no sticker, then it still needs to be done. Hope this helps!!
Before your consider meds:
Posted by: bethbrat
Posted on: 2004-10-12 11:40:26
Please make sure she has ADD before you consider medication. Even though you may have it, that does not mean that she does. Get her diagnosed before, and make sure the docter knows how to correctly diagnose the condition. My daughter is 13, she gets good grades in school and has friends and is very well behaved but she cannot remember to do such things as bring home homework, practice karate or do her chores. Sound like your daughter, well mine does not have ADD. I know a lot of parents with this same problem. I think it has a lot to do with the age not a medical condidtion. I have set very clear consequences for her when she forgets something. No chores no phone, forget homework no t.v., what ever is important to her. It's tough because it's not intentional and she really is a good kid, but she has to learn that there are consequences for her actions.
I wrote out a contract with her and made her sign it. It helps because when she starts to get upset about the punishment I can show it to her and she calms down pretty quickly. And it's working, she's doing much better. It's not perfect but the improvment has been enormous.
Good luck
Posted by: bethbrat
Posted on: 2004-10-12 11:40:26
Please make sure she has ADD before you consider medication. Even though you may have it, that does not mean that she does. Get her diagnosed before, and make sure the docter knows how to correctly diagnose the condition. My daughter is 13, she gets good grades in school and has friends and is very well behaved but she cannot remember to do such things as bring home homework, practice karate or do her chores. Sound like your daughter, well mine does not have ADD. I know a lot of parents with this same problem. I think it has a lot to do with the age not a medical condidtion. I have set very clear consequences for her when she forgets something. No chores no phone, forget homework no t.v., what ever is important to her. It's tough because it's not intentional and she really is a good kid, but she has to learn that there are consequences for her actions.
I wrote out a contract with her and made her sign it. It helps because when she starts to get upset about the punishment I can show it to her and she calms down pretty quickly. And it's working, she's doing much better. It's not perfect but the improvment has been enormous.
Good luck
ADD Contract
Posted by: czechitout
Posted on: 2004-11-17 10:55:21
bethbrat, can you email me a copy of the contract you made with your daughter? I recently put my child on "straterra" after she has been asking for medicine for a year. She is very Hyper and "annoying". I hate to say this about my child, but its true. ( I dont want to sound harsh, because she is also tender hearted) I dragged my feet about the medicine, until her grades and attention span kept dropping. She has been on the medicine for 1 1/2 months, and at first I thought it made a difference, but now her grades are dropping again. SHe is 13, and I love your idea of the contract. Thanks for your time. my email is ultrasoundgirl@sbcglobal.net
Posted by: czechitout
Posted on: 2004-11-17 10:55:21
bethbrat, can you email me a copy of the contract you made with your daughter? I recently put my child on "straterra" after she has been asking for medicine for a year. She is very Hyper and "annoying". I hate to say this about my child, but its true. ( I dont want to sound harsh, because she is also tender hearted) I dragged my feet about the medicine, until her grades and attention span kept dropping. She has been on the medicine for 1 1/2 months, and at first I thought it made a difference, but now her grades are dropping again. SHe is 13, and I love your idea of the contract. Thanks for your time. my email is ultrasoundgirl@sbcglobal.net
Just My 2 Cents Worth
Posted by: stilldreem
Posted on: 2004-10-12 13:19:19
Every child is different. My son has severe ADHD which first became symptomatic at the start of first grade. In his case, he was unable to sit in his chair, was impulsive, and could not complete a single task. I had always believed that ADD/ADHD was a result of poor parenting, until, of course, MY son was diagnosed. I worked with a child psychologist, the school, and our family to exhaust all possible options before deciding to medicate my son. The side-effects can be just as worrisome as the ADHD. His self-esteem was crushed, and he hated school.
I've always believed that a sense of self-esteem/worth/respect is the most important gift that a parent can give and teach a child. That heavily influenced my decision. I couldn't stand seeing that crushed in him. His teachers now describe him as gifted, and his self-esteem is souring (sometimes even a bit too much, lol) I try to limit the medication to school days or when he's doing something that requires him to focus. I figure the rest of the time, it's what he and I think, not what everyone else thinks that really matters. Now that I have a step-son the same age who doesn't have ADD/ADHD, I've learned that some of his behavior that I've "excused" as his ADHD, is normal, lazy, sometimes obnoxious, pre-pubescent, boundary testing. Just when I thought I had mastered parenting, too!
Posted by: stilldreem
Posted on: 2004-10-12 13:19:19
Every child is different. My son has severe ADHD which first became symptomatic at the start of first grade. In his case, he was unable to sit in his chair, was impulsive, and could not complete a single task. I had always believed that ADD/ADHD was a result of poor parenting, until, of course, MY son was diagnosed. I worked with a child psychologist, the school, and our family to exhaust all possible options before deciding to medicate my son. The side-effects can be just as worrisome as the ADHD. His self-esteem was crushed, and he hated school.
I've always believed that a sense of self-esteem/worth/respect is the most important gift that a parent can give and teach a child. That heavily influenced my decision. I couldn't stand seeing that crushed in him. His teachers now describe him as gifted, and his self-esteem is souring (sometimes even a bit too much, lol) I try to limit the medication to school days or when he's doing something that requires him to focus. I figure the rest of the time, it's what he and I think, not what everyone else thinks that really matters. Now that I have a step-son the same age who doesn't have ADD/ADHD, I've learned that some of his behavior that I've "excused" as his ADHD, is normal, lazy, sometimes obnoxious, pre-pubescent, boundary testing. Just when I thought I had mastered parenting, too!
Am I hurting my child
Posted by: lccnanny52
Posted on: 2004-10-12 17:24:49
Yes I think you are. I have 3 grand children that we have cutody of & all 3 are ADHD. We did allot of research before putting them on any meds but when we did what a differance that made in them. ADHD is a chemical off balance in their brain. It doesn't make them stupid, mental, lazy or any thing like that. They just have a hard time dealing with some some things in life. The medicine sure helps balance that part of the brain to function properly. The medicine they get helps them not only function properly but it does help their self esteem, makes them really feel good about them self.
Posted by: lccnanny52
Posted on: 2004-10-12 17:24:49
Yes I think you are. I have 3 grand children that we have cutody of & all 3 are ADHD. We did allot of research before putting them on any meds but when we did what a differance that made in them. ADHD is a chemical off balance in their brain. It doesn't make them stupid, mental, lazy or any thing like that. They just have a hard time dealing with some some things in life. The medicine sure helps balance that part of the brain to function properly. The medicine they get helps them not only function properly but it does help their self esteem, makes them really feel good about them self.
Don't be afraid of Meds
Posted by: manuela50
Posted on: 2004-10-12 19:01:41
My child also has been diagnosed with ADD, and when the Psychiatrist first suggested meds, I was a little hesitant. Then, after discussing it with her, and doing some research, I decided to go ahead and try it. What a difference !!! What a success!!! My son now has gone from C's & D's to A's and B's. We also have tried some new organizational skills, (which we tried without the meds first, but didn't work too well), and along with Adderall XR...well, it is like a new kid. He sees the difference himself at school, and makes sure that he is on schedule for taking them. We take a break during the summer and sometimes on weekends. Please don't be afraid...it has been a real positive thing for all of us. He is now able to succeed in school, just like the other kids. We are now looking at colleges for him!
Posted by: manuela50
Posted on: 2004-10-12 19:01:41
My child also has been diagnosed with ADD, and when the Psychiatrist first suggested meds, I was a little hesitant. Then, after discussing it with her, and doing some research, I decided to go ahead and try it. What a difference !!! What a success!!! My son now has gone from C's & D's to A's and B's. We also have tried some new organizational skills, (which we tried without the meds first, but didn't work too well), and along with Adderall XR...well, it is like a new kid. He sees the difference himself at school, and makes sure that he is on schedule for taking them. We take a break during the summer and sometimes on weekends. Please don't be afraid...it has been a real positive thing for all of us. He is now able to succeed in school, just like the other kids. We are now looking at colleges for him!
to medicate, or not to medicate
Posted by: fadarden
Posted on: 2004-10-12 19:35:33
caitismom....i have 2 children....1 is add (15) and 1 is adhd(10). i choose to let my children choose whether or not to medicate. children don't have to take multiple doses to feel the effects of the meds. i started letting my 15 year old decide when she ws 10, and now i let my 10 year old decide too. they appreciate that i trust them to make the decision about taking the meds or not. mostly, they don't, and that's GREAT. when my 10 year old feels out of control, he takes it (he has rage issues) and he does great. both kids make decent grades, but my 15 year old is in that I DON'T HAVE TO STUDY phase. guess what, she's now finding out that she's wrong. 9th grade is FAR different that 8th. she'll get it together. i know with all my heart that she will.
Posted by: fadarden
Posted on: 2004-10-12 19:35:33
caitismom....i have 2 children....1 is add (15) and 1 is adhd(10). i choose to let my children choose whether or not to medicate. children don't have to take multiple doses to feel the effects of the meds. i started letting my 15 year old decide when she ws 10, and now i let my 10 year old decide too. they appreciate that i trust them to make the decision about taking the meds or not. mostly, they don't, and that's GREAT. when my 10 year old feels out of control, he takes it (he has rage issues) and he does great. both kids make decent grades, but my 15 year old is in that I DON'T HAVE TO STUDY phase. guess what, she's now finding out that she's wrong. 9th grade is FAR different that 8th. she'll get it together. i know with all my heart that she will.
NO NO NO
Posted by: shamoo74
Posted on: 2004-10-12 23:37:03
For the love of God! Look into Medical Studies!!!!!! These drugs are doing physical damage to developing brains.
Posted by: shamoo74
Posted on: 2004-10-12 23:37:03
For the love of God! Look into Medical Studies!!!!!! These drugs are doing physical damage to developing brains.
WHAT TYPE OF PARENT ARE YOU
Posted by: kjmpjmcstn
Posted on: 2004-10-15 08:09:50
HI, I HAVE 4 KIDS 14,13,11,9,MY LAST CHILD WAS BORN IN 1995, SHE WAS NOT THE SAME FORM THE START. NICKY BEEN ON DEXAMPHETAMINE AT 3 YEARS OLD AND STILL ON IT 4 1/2 A DAY TODAY.SHE IS A.D.H.D./ A.S.D,AT SCHOOL SHE IS IN S.E.UNIT. NICKY HAS ALWAYS BEEN A HAND FULL. IF YOU FEEL YOU HAVE TO MEDICATE YOUR DAUGHTER, THAT IS UP TO YOU,WE HAVE TO LIVE WITH OUR DAUGHTERS,PEOPLE WILL SAY NOT TO GIVE THEM STIMULANTS,I GET IT ALL THE TIME I SAY TO THEM YOU SHOULD TRY LIVING WITH THEM,WHEN I TELL THEM ABOUT HER THEY SOON SHUT UP ABOUT IT.WE HAVE OUR GOOD/BAD,DAYS. TAKE CARE
Posted by: kjmpjmcstn
Posted on: 2004-10-15 08:09:50
HI, I HAVE 4 KIDS 14,13,11,9,MY LAST CHILD WAS BORN IN 1995, SHE WAS NOT THE SAME FORM THE START. NICKY BEEN ON DEXAMPHETAMINE AT 3 YEARS OLD AND STILL ON IT 4 1/2 A DAY TODAY.SHE IS A.D.H.D./ A.S.D,AT SCHOOL SHE IS IN S.E.UNIT. NICKY HAS ALWAYS BEEN A HAND FULL. IF YOU FEEL YOU HAVE TO MEDICATE YOUR DAUGHTER, THAT IS UP TO YOU,WE HAVE TO LIVE WITH OUR DAUGHTERS,PEOPLE WILL SAY NOT TO GIVE THEM STIMULANTS,I GET IT ALL THE TIME I SAY TO THEM YOU SHOULD TRY LIVING WITH THEM,WHEN I TELL THEM ABOUT HER THEY SOON SHUT UP ABOUT IT.WE HAVE OUR GOOD/BAD,DAYS. TAKE CARE
A family with many Hyperacitve members
Posted by: charnac
Posted on: 2004-10-16 11:14:07
From my brother to my own son, and additonal relatives, I have had to deal with various forms of both ADD/Hyperactive disorders as well as additional mental problems. My son, now age 30 still has not found a complete life, yet for periods of time I found an old but reliable non-medication form to help my son. It was a proper diet. No artificial coloring in his diet. Most of all anything with red or yellow dye would affect him. In the early 70's a book was published explaining that some ADD/Hyperactive children were having adverse reactions to coloring in food. As medications took over the market place, the diet fell out of fashion, only I know it does help my son cope with day to day problems. When he eats products with food coloring he becomes forgetful, and hard to keep out of trouble. As a layperson and not an expert, I might ask Dr. Phil how he feels about the non-food coloring diets when medication is not giving you results you are seeking. I also know for me, love, hugs, a not hitting policy for my entire household added with great amounts of patience was the only way I could hold together and prove to myself that I had helped my son as much as I could. I come from an extremely abusive background and it was hard to break cycles. I wish you the greatest of luck and hope your find all of your answers-Charnac
Posted by: charnac
Posted on: 2004-10-16 11:14:07
From my brother to my own son, and additonal relatives, I have had to deal with various forms of both ADD/Hyperactive disorders as well as additional mental problems. My son, now age 30 still has not found a complete life, yet for periods of time I found an old but reliable non-medication form to help my son. It was a proper diet. No artificial coloring in his diet. Most of all anything with red or yellow dye would affect him. In the early 70's a book was published explaining that some ADD/Hyperactive children were having adverse reactions to coloring in food. As medications took over the market place, the diet fell out of fashion, only I know it does help my son cope with day to day problems. When he eats products with food coloring he becomes forgetful, and hard to keep out of trouble. As a layperson and not an expert, I might ask Dr. Phil how he feels about the non-food coloring diets when medication is not giving you results you are seeking. I also know for me, love, hugs, a not hitting policy for my entire household added with great amounts of patience was the only way I could hold together and prove to myself that I had helped my son as much as I could. I come from an extremely abusive background and it was hard to break cycles. I wish you the greatest of luck and hope your find all of your answers-Charnac
A different method
Posted by: wralex
Posted on: 2004-11-28 22:41:14
maybe you could try a different method like a notebook in which things are written down. it might be easier for her to remember one thing than many things. then she would only need to read it and cross things off as they are done. You write things that need to be done for the day then check it at night. you could have a reward for each day she brings the notebook home or completes all the tasks. if she's getting good grades and the only real problem is forgetfulness it doesn't sound like medication will be of much benefit. I believe all options should be exhausted before putting a child on medication for such a thing.
Posted by: wralex
Posted on: 2004-11-28 22:41:14
maybe you could try a different method like a notebook in which things are written down. it might be easier for her to remember one thing than many things. then she would only need to read it and cross things off as they are done. You write things that need to be done for the day then check it at night. you could have a reward for each day she brings the notebook home or completes all the tasks. if she's getting good grades and the only real problem is forgetfulness it doesn't sound like medication will be of much benefit. I believe all options should be exhausted before putting a child on medication for such a thing.
The Social and Economic Impact of ADD
Posted by: askighei
Posted on: 2005-01-04 13:19:39
Some of the most prestigious scientific-based
organizations such as American Medical Assoc.,
Surgeon General of the United States,
National Institutes of Health, American
Academy of Pediatrics, Mayo Clinic,etc.
conclude that ADD is a real disorder with
potentially devastating consequences when
not properly identified, diagnosed & treated.
The impact on the life of a child, a family,
or an adult varies widely from individual
to individual but may create medical, educational, economic, social and emotional
hardships in the home, at school, or in
personal relationships, encounters with the
justice system, etc.
Posted by: askighei
Posted on: 2005-01-04 13:19:39
Some of the most prestigious scientific-based
organizations such as American Medical Assoc.,
Surgeon General of the United States,
National Institutes of Health, American
Academy of Pediatrics, Mayo Clinic,etc.
conclude that ADD is a real disorder with
potentially devastating consequences when
not properly identified, diagnosed & treated.
The impact on the life of a child, a family,
or an adult varies widely from individual
to individual but may create medical, educational, economic, social and emotional
hardships in the home, at school, or in
personal relationships, encounters with the
justice system, etc.
caitismom
Posted by: ssskkkhhh
Posted on: 2005-04-12 08:20:17
No PLEASE try not to medicate her...I have 2 son's one who is suposed to be ADHD...I have resisted medications....to me who see's him everyday, he only is displaying the charteristics of his father..who happens to be a very inteligent man..who enjoys the challenges of building thing's...(Anything..)..my son displays the same things..hates school hates reading spelling..excells in maths technoligy...if we can live with his strong will and...enourmouse amount of energy..and crazy ups n downs..till he reaches adulthood...we will have a fine caring...intellegent..forgetfull..wonderful..thoughtful person..just like his dad...
Posted by: ssskkkhhh
Posted on: 2005-04-12 08:20:17
No PLEASE try not to medicate her...I have 2 son's one who is suposed to be ADHD...I have resisted medications....to me who see's him everyday, he only is displaying the charteristics of his father..who happens to be a very inteligent man..who enjoys the challenges of building thing's...(Anything..)..my son displays the same things..hates school hates reading spelling..excells in maths technoligy...if we can live with his strong will and...enourmouse amount of energy..and crazy ups n downs..till he reaches adulthood...we will have a fine caring...intellegent..forgetfull..wonderful..thoughtful person..just like his dad...
Reply to caitismom
Posted by: dyanna69
Posted on: 2005-06-27 05:55:30
I, too, am a mother of 2 ADHD boys. Both are medicated. As far as medication goes, you need to consider if the emotional effects are affecting your daughter. If your daughter is thriving and happy, then NO, she shouldn't be medicated. Make sure you check every aspect though. Have her tested, retested, etc by experts in the field, not just your primary care giver. I went through over 30 different sources such as psychiatrists, dietitions, behavior specialists, educators, and support groups.
Good Luck!
Posted by: dyanna69
Posted on: 2005-06-27 05:55:30
I, too, am a mother of 2 ADHD boys. Both are medicated. As far as medication goes, you need to consider if the emotional effects are affecting your daughter. If your daughter is thriving and happy, then NO, she shouldn't be medicated. Make sure you check every aspect though. Have her tested, retested, etc by experts in the field, not just your primary care giver. I went through over 30 different sources such as psychiatrists, dietitions, behavior specialists, educators, and support groups.
Good Luck!
discontent
Posted by: pegwon5law
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:33:00
Dr.Phill, after the 4 year custody battle and gaining custody of my grandaughter i feel bitter. i'm not doing a very good job parenting. i'm tired, burn't out, it's all work and no play. i thought custody is what i wanted. to my surprise i feel resentful. i critisize her almost costantly, i feel overwhelmed by her needs. she's 9-years old.i thought things would be easier after the lawsuit. the stress feels about or almost the same. i tell myself things will get easier but when the burned out feelings are the strongest i wish i had somewhere to send her back to. my being at those times says to me i don't want this, i want out. even though i love her. i feel terrible guilt. can you help. thanks discontent
Posted by: pegwon5law
Posted on: 2004-10-12 08:33:00
Dr.Phill, after the 4 year custody battle and gaining custody of my grandaughter i feel bitter. i'm not doing a very good job parenting. i'm tired, burn't out, it's all work and no play. i thought custody is what i wanted. to my surprise i feel resentful. i critisize her almost costantly, i feel overwhelmed by her needs. she's 9-years old.i thought things would be easier after the lawsuit. the stress feels about or almost the same. i tell myself things will get easier but when the burned out feelings are the strongest i wish i had somewhere to send her back to. my being at those times says to me i don't want this, i want out. even though i love her. i feel terrible guilt. can you help. thanks discontent
To discontent
Posted by: lccnanny52
Posted on: 2004-10-12 19:01:41
If you spent 4 years trying to get custody of your granddaughter you must love her, so why are you complaning now about her. This child can't help needing you & you are all she has. You need to feel guilty for not wanting her now she isn't a rag doll you can toss around from place to place she is a child who really needs you. And you don't need to tell her you don't want her now either because that will hurt her even more.
Life isn't a prefect picture so take care of that little girl & stop complaning about it
Posted by: lccnanny52
Posted on: 2004-10-12 19:01:41
If you spent 4 years trying to get custody of your granddaughter you must love her, so why are you complaning now about her. This child can't help needing you & you are all she has. You need to feel guilty for not wanting her now she isn't a rag doll you can toss around from place to place she is a child who really needs you. And you don't need to tell her you don't want her now either because that will hurt her even more.
Life isn't a prefect picture so take care of that little girl & stop complaning about it
