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Posted by: dinkylynn
Posted on: 2004-10-07 15:01:22
I have a 13 year old son who seems to be angry all of the time. He argues with me and my other kids and often he gets so angry that he destroys things or hits my other 2 children. I dont know how to deal with him, and nothing I am doing is helping. Where can I start so that I can communicate with him and change my turbulent household into a peaceful home?
Posted by: dinkylynn
Posted on: 2004-10-07 15:01:22
I have a 13 year old son who seems to be angry all of the time. He argues with me and my other kids and often he gets so angry that he destroys things or hits my other 2 children. I dont know how to deal with him, and nothing I am doing is helping. Where can I start so that I can communicate with him and change my turbulent household into a peaceful home?
angry teen
Posted by: psbailey
Posted on: 2004-10-08 08:48:58
I can sympathise with you. I know exactly what you are going through. I have a 14 year old son who is very angry too. Due to years of abuse from his Dad. It gets really bad around here sometimes. I have my son seeing a psychologist and he is recommending that he be hospitalized right now. I just dont know if I can commit my son. When he goes into one of his rages it is very scary. The other day he threatened to take all of his anti-depressants and climbed up on the roof and threatened to jump off. I am a mom that is very confused right now and really dont know where to turn. I dont want to committ my son but I also dont want him to harm his self or any one else. Does any one have any suggestions?
Posted by: psbailey
Posted on: 2004-10-08 08:48:58
I can sympathise with you. I know exactly what you are going through. I have a 14 year old son who is very angry too. Due to years of abuse from his Dad. It gets really bad around here sometimes. I have my son seeing a psychologist and he is recommending that he be hospitalized right now. I just dont know if I can commit my son. When he goes into one of his rages it is very scary. The other day he threatened to take all of his anti-depressants and climbed up on the roof and threatened to jump off. I am a mom that is very confused right now and really dont know where to turn. I dont want to committ my son but I also dont want him to harm his self or any one else. Does any one have any suggestions?
To psbailey
Posted by: hapninnow
Posted on: 2004-10-18 17:30:02
Committing your child is the hardest thing to do. I know. I had to do it. My son is bi-polar, and he is on medication. He got involed with pot, and got thrown out of summer camp. When he came home he was violent. I had to commit him. It was so hard. I cried hysterically during the wohle procedure. But he and the rest of the family were better off for it. They changed his meds, got psychiatric help, the family was counceled, and when he was released, things were much better. Not perfect, but better.
Posted by: hapninnow
Posted on: 2004-10-18 17:30:02
Committing your child is the hardest thing to do. I know. I had to do it. My son is bi-polar, and he is on medication. He got involed with pot, and got thrown out of summer camp. When he came home he was violent. I had to commit him. It was so hard. I cried hysterically during the wohle procedure. But he and the rest of the family were better off for it. They changed his meds, got psychiatric help, the family was counceled, and when he was released, things were much better. Not perfect, but better.
Can Terrible 2's continue to 3's
Posted by: hurtmommy
Posted on: 2004-11-03 17:24:31
My three old old completely runs over me. Now matter what I do he does not listen to me. I have tried time out, showing him what he did was wrong, taking things away(such as TV for the night or play time) but it seems no matter what punishment he gets he still does not care. He has bite, hit, kicked, and threw things at me and Called me names and yelled at me. He also choked my other 2 children. Not only was I scared for my childrens safety but also my own. And scarest of all his. I got frustrated and would have to lock myself in my room and let him kick and scream and throw things at the wall and till I cooled off. I was worried I would fall over the edge. I recently sent him to live with his grandmother and grandfather because they thought that they could help me to change the direction of his life. It has helped him alot. He comes and visits me on every other weekend but we notice a change in him if he stays at my house for more than 2 or 3 days. I love my son with all my heart. But knowing that I have failed him as a mother hurts me so badly. I cry all the time because I feel that maybe there was something else that I could do. Am I a failure? Should I have stuck it out? Did I take the easy way out of the situation?
Posted by: hurtmommy
Posted on: 2004-11-03 17:24:31
My three old old completely runs over me. Now matter what I do he does not listen to me. I have tried time out, showing him what he did was wrong, taking things away(such as TV for the night or play time) but it seems no matter what punishment he gets he still does not care. He has bite, hit, kicked, and threw things at me and Called me names and yelled at me. He also choked my other 2 children. Not only was I scared for my childrens safety but also my own. And scarest of all his. I got frustrated and would have to lock myself in my room and let him kick and scream and throw things at the wall and till I cooled off. I was worried I would fall over the edge. I recently sent him to live with his grandmother and grandfather because they thought that they could help me to change the direction of his life. It has helped him alot. He comes and visits me on every other weekend but we notice a change in him if he stays at my house for more than 2 or 3 days. I love my son with all my heart. But knowing that I have failed him as a mother hurts me so badly. I cry all the time because I feel that maybe there was something else that I could do. Am I a failure? Should I have stuck it out? Did I take the easy way out of the situation?
I totally understand!
Posted by: 2tll4u
Posted on: 2004-11-18 01:21:58
I totally understand where you are coming from. I also have a 3 year old boy who does the exact same things. I am a single mom and his dad takes him every so often, and My son is a perfect angel with him. With me though he is a wholly terror. I have tried everything also. I have no answers for you, but you should feel lucky to have your parents to help out. My family cannot handle my son. You did the right thing.Don't feel bad, it is not you it is just the type of child. Let's hope they grow out of it.
Posted by: 2tll4u
Posted on: 2004-11-18 01:21:58
I totally understand where you are coming from. I also have a 3 year old boy who does the exact same things. I am a single mom and his dad takes him every so often, and My son is a perfect angel with him. With me though he is a wholly terror. I have tried everything also. I have no answers for you, but you should feel lucky to have your parents to help out. My family cannot handle my son. You did the right thing.Don't feel bad, it is not you it is just the type of child. Let's hope they grow out of it.
Posted by: maria0305
Posted on: 2005-01-10 09:11:22
I understand how hurtmommy feels 11.3.04 I too have a son who is nearly 3 and I feel I have lost control of him he swears is violent hits the dog throws tantrums all the time and I feel like a failure because he is my child and there are days where I really can't deal with him, I try to be firm and authoritive but even with punishing him he still does the same things, I hope he will grow out of this.
Posted by: maria0305
Posted on: 2005-01-10 09:11:30
I understand how hurtmommy feels 11.3.04 I too have a son who is nearly 3 and I feel I have lost control of him he swears is violent hits the dog throws tantrums all the time and I feel like a failure because he is my child and there are days where I really can't deal with him, I try to be firm and authoritive but even with punishing him he still does the same things, I hope he will grow out of this.
temper tantrums
Posted by: hjillybean
Posted on: 2005-06-06 19:05:48
I can't wait to read Dr. Phil's book, but when my son was 3 and my stepdaughter who has ADHD was little and they threw temper tantrums, a program called 123 majic saved my life. It should be available at any bookstore or library and it is a really simple process to use for younger children and I highly recommend it!!!!
Posted by: hjillybean
Posted on: 2005-06-06 19:05:48
I can't wait to read Dr. Phil's book, but when my son was 3 and my stepdaughter who has ADHD was little and they threw temper tantrums, a program called 123 majic saved my life. It should be available at any bookstore or library and it is a really simple process to use for younger children and I highly recommend it!!!!
I feel your pain
Posted by: astjat
Posted on: 2005-01-27 11:13:59
My son is 3 1/2 and we have been dealing with this type of behavior for about one year. It is so exhausting! As Mom's we always feel guilty for not doing more for our kids, but never concern ourselves with nourishing ourselves as careproviders. As cheesy as it sounds I always remember Dr. Phil's comment that parenting must be a guilt free zone. Good Luck, you are in my prayers.
Posted by: astjat
Posted on: 2005-01-27 11:13:59
My son is 3 1/2 and we have been dealing with this type of behavior for about one year. It is so exhausting! As Mom's we always feel guilty for not doing more for our kids, but never concern ourselves with nourishing ourselves as careproviders. As cheesy as it sounds I always remember Dr. Phil's comment that parenting must be a guilt free zone. Good Luck, you are in my prayers.
When will we learn
Posted by: quota1100
Posted on: 2005-03-21 23:41:06
I have a five year old and i had the same problems when he was around two or three i just simply grew up i realized that you can't make idol threats they just don't work for example "If you don't i will knock your block off" which is one of my husbands favourites they know they don't have a block to knock off so they are completly safe and there will be no conciquence for that perticular action I also found if you keep calling them names they will eventually live up to their expectations hope this helps it has helped to diciplend myself before guiding my children.
Posted by: quota1100
Posted on: 2005-03-21 23:41:06
I have a five year old and i had the same problems when he was around two or three i just simply grew up i realized that you can't make idol threats they just don't work for example "If you don't i will knock your block off" which is one of my husbands favourites they know they don't have a block to knock off so they are completly safe and there will be no conciquence for that perticular action I also found if you keep calling them names they will eventually live up to their expectations hope this helps it has helped to diciplend myself before guiding my children.
been there doing that!
Posted by: lkljpl66
Posted on: 2005-06-06 15:09:32
Well, I am still living the nightmare. My son is 7 1/2. His dad and I divorced when he was 3. I share joint custody with my ex. my son hits, kicks, pinches and yells at me. I am the only true disciplinarin that my son has. He is a good boy in school,(all A's in conduct), church, everywhere/everyone but me. He is fine untill I say "no" then it brakes loose. I, too, have tried all conventional methods of correction........I'm about to enter counseling to help me deal with the frustration/anger.
Posted by: lkljpl66
Posted on: 2005-06-06 15:09:32
Well, I am still living the nightmare. My son is 7 1/2. His dad and I divorced when he was 3. I share joint custody with my ex. my son hits, kicks, pinches and yells at me. I am the only true disciplinarin that my son has. He is a good boy in school,(all A's in conduct), church, everywhere/everyone but me. He is fine untill I say "no" then it brakes loose. I, too, have tried all conventional methods of correction........I'm about to enter counseling to help me deal with the frustration/anger.
Single Mother Struggling but Surviving
Posted by: familia199
Posted on: 2005-06-11 06:03:55
As a single mom I can completely understand where you are coming from I've been in your shoes for quite sometime now. I have a son that at age 2 it began, the so called terrible twos. However, it continued to esculate and at age 4 I too was terrified of my child but he became scared of me as well because I became violent with him since I was not able to control my anger and actions at that time. He would throw things, hit me with bats or anything else he could find to hurt me, tantrums at home and every where else we'd be, throw knives at me, in which did hit me on the back, luckly though the handle side hit and not the blade. However, when he was with anyone else, such as, his daycare provider and teachers he was a perfect angel. There were so many times that I'd be somewhere in public with him and he'd start to act up and it was so embarrassing and then I would have to leave what I was doing and take him home. It got to a point I couldn't go anywhere with him. I had many days and nights that I would go to my room and cry and ask myself what am I doing wrong. There were many times I just wanted to give up and give him to my parents (or end my life because I couldn't cope) since for one they thought that they can do better but over course they wouldn't help in that way. They did support me and supplied help when needed so that I could hang in there. Discipline was a difficult one to work with since every minute of every day was different and that one thing would work that time but it would not neccessarily work the next time around and it did get very frustrating for me and I thought I had ran out of things to work with. I found out that sometimes rotating the ways of discipline would start to work with him so that wouldn't think I'm going to lose my mind. During the most hectic time I did take him to a psycologist and between that doctor and his general doctor they decided to treat him for ADHD and ODD (Oppositional Defience Disorder). He's been through a lot since that age and now it has turned out that it has caused problems for him at age 12 because now the doctors, psycologists, and psychiatrists are determining that he's suffering from what they call BPDOC (Bipolor Disorder of Children). I feel for him since it took me so long to find out what was going on with me since my parents never did anything for me as a child to help my psycological problems. They just thought that I was a horrible child. Once I've started getting the right help he seems to be responding better now. All that is needed now is to regelate his medication to help him cope mentally and emotionally to be able to function in this crazy and stressful world we all live in. Don't feel guilty but don't give up on your child because you are the most important person in his life more so then his grandparents. In my opinion I would bring him back home and set up the support and medical assistance that you and him may need so that you two can have a successful life together. It can get better. I know because since I'm getting well my son is also getting well, enough to function in this world on a daily basis.
Posted by: familia199
Posted on: 2005-06-11 06:03:55
As a single mom I can completely understand where you are coming from I've been in your shoes for quite sometime now. I have a son that at age 2 it began, the so called terrible twos. However, it continued to esculate and at age 4 I too was terrified of my child but he became scared of me as well because I became violent with him since I was not able to control my anger and actions at that time. He would throw things, hit me with bats or anything else he could find to hurt me, tantrums at home and every where else we'd be, throw knives at me, in which did hit me on the back, luckly though the handle side hit and not the blade. However, when he was with anyone else, such as, his daycare provider and teachers he was a perfect angel. There were so many times that I'd be somewhere in public with him and he'd start to act up and it was so embarrassing and then I would have to leave what I was doing and take him home. It got to a point I couldn't go anywhere with him. I had many days and nights that I would go to my room and cry and ask myself what am I doing wrong. There were many times I just wanted to give up and give him to my parents (or end my life because I couldn't cope) since for one they thought that they can do better but over course they wouldn't help in that way. They did support me and supplied help when needed so that I could hang in there. Discipline was a difficult one to work with since every minute of every day was different and that one thing would work that time but it would not neccessarily work the next time around and it did get very frustrating for me and I thought I had ran out of things to work with. I found out that sometimes rotating the ways of discipline would start to work with him so that wouldn't think I'm going to lose my mind. During the most hectic time I did take him to a psycologist and between that doctor and his general doctor they decided to treat him for ADHD and ODD (Oppositional Defience Disorder). He's been through a lot since that age and now it has turned out that it has caused problems for him at age 12 because now the doctors, psycologists, and psychiatrists are determining that he's suffering from what they call BPDOC (Bipolor Disorder of Children). I feel for him since it took me so long to find out what was going on with me since my parents never did anything for me as a child to help my psycological problems. They just thought that I was a horrible child. Once I've started getting the right help he seems to be responding better now. All that is needed now is to regelate his medication to help him cope mentally and emotionally to be able to function in this crazy and stressful world we all live in. Don't feel guilty but don't give up on your child because you are the most important person in his life more so then his grandparents. In my opinion I would bring him back home and set up the support and medical assistance that you and him may need so that you two can have a successful life together. It can get better. I know because since I'm getting well my son is also getting well, enough to function in this world on a daily basis.
i feel for you.
Posted by: mryhawkey
Posted on: 2005-07-04 22:52:30
i am a grand mom to a just turned 2 yr old and he has a mouth like a sailer. i have to admit i have cussed in front of him but have stopped when he is around he has called me the b word and he has said things that have been said in front of him about me, from his dad and his mom, he has recently been moved in with his mom and her boyfriend and his daughter and all this with him has caused some problems and he has stared to bite and hit and i also do the time out i dont spank him but i have made a mistake in raising my voice when i should not have. he is not to blame for how he learns things, it took alot of control not to wash his mouth out, but his cussing has calmed down tremendously, he an also be the sweetest thing in the world but only when he has not seen his dad or when he is away from his mom, he has no stability except for my home he has not been in a stable home of his own since he was born and that may be playing a bigger part of his problem.
Posted by: mryhawkey
Posted on: 2005-07-04 22:52:30
i am a grand mom to a just turned 2 yr old and he has a mouth like a sailer. i have to admit i have cussed in front of him but have stopped when he is around he has called me the b word and he has said things that have been said in front of him about me, from his dad and his mom, he has recently been moved in with his mom and her boyfriend and his daughter and all this with him has caused some problems and he has stared to bite and hit and i also do the time out i dont spank him but i have made a mistake in raising my voice when i should not have. he is not to blame for how he learns things, it took alot of control not to wash his mouth out, but his cussing has calmed down tremendously, he an also be the sweetest thing in the world but only when he has not seen his dad or when he is away from his mom, he has no stability except for my home he has not been in a stable home of his own since he was born and that may be playing a bigger part of his problem.
teenage trauma
Posted by: raecheung
Posted on: 2005-06-04 19:42:31
b Most teenagers express their anger towards the people they care most about. Now to the extent of the anger usually depends on how deep the actual anger subsides. Meaning teens over react to just about everything on a hole, but the ones who tend to REALLY over react tend to have some built up anger stemming from the past. Most of the time a very angry teen comes from a broken home,(divorce, abuse, poverity, ect...) and generally feels no worth in the present situation. Just to add I am not pointing blame at you in anyway, some situations are always harder to deal with for some people then others, and there is always exceptions. In order to break through to such an angry person you need to find the root of the problem from which it stems, which in some cases could be very far down in the past. Now this is strictly speaking from my past exprience and I could be way off , but what I would suggest to you is that you try to talk to your teen on a level of an equal and let him know how his actions effects the others in the house and that when HE in paticular acts out like this it really upsets you. Ask him what he thinks you could do in order to help lessen such severe reactions.I am not saying let him run the show, but teens tend to react more possitively once spoken to as a person as oposed to a child, because they think that they are grown up........so give it a go and try and find out what is hidding in that secret closet....hope to help. Rachel
Posted by: raecheung
Posted on: 2005-06-04 19:42:31
b Most teenagers express their anger towards the people they care most about. Now to the extent of the anger usually depends on how deep the actual anger subsides. Meaning teens over react to just about everything on a hole, but the ones who tend to REALLY over react tend to have some built up anger stemming from the past. Most of the time a very angry teen comes from a broken home,(divorce, abuse, poverity, ect...) and generally feels no worth in the present situation. Just to add I am not pointing blame at you in anyway, some situations are always harder to deal with for some people then others, and there is always exceptions. In order to break through to such an angry person you need to find the root of the problem from which it stems, which in some cases could be very far down in the past. Now this is strictly speaking from my past exprience and I could be way off , but what I would suggest to you is that you try to talk to your teen on a level of an equal and let him know how his actions effects the others in the house and that when HE in paticular acts out like this it really upsets you. Ask him what he thinks you could do in order to help lessen such severe reactions.I am not saying let him run the show, but teens tend to react more possitively once spoken to as a person as oposed to a child, because they think that they are grown up........so give it a go and try and find out what is hidding in that secret closet....hope to help. Rachel
Angry son
Posted by: judymfaris
Posted on: 2005-06-06 22:41:35
I have a son who at 12 was very angry and blamed himself for his mom & dad's divorce. He skipped school, got into drugs and alcohol, kicked holes in walls and tried to put his fist through a brick wall. After he was arrested for shoplifting it was recommended that he be admitted to the teen psych unit of a training hospital in Denver and he did a 180, having been kicked out of school at 14 he got clean from the drugs and alcohol and has become very successful in his work and personal life. Thank God for the help I was able to get for him. I couldn't do it alone and he's proof he can turn his life around. The things he said that helped him the most was to take long walks and cool down when upset. One day he walked 20 miles but said he was better for it, even if he did have to call collect for me to pick him up. Thank God for Dr. Phil and listen to him, he knows what he's talking about. Judy
Posted by: judymfaris
Posted on: 2005-06-06 22:41:35
I have a son who at 12 was very angry and blamed himself for his mom & dad's divorce. He skipped school, got into drugs and alcohol, kicked holes in walls and tried to put his fist through a brick wall. After he was arrested for shoplifting it was recommended that he be admitted to the teen psych unit of a training hospital in Denver and he did a 180, having been kicked out of school at 14 he got clean from the drugs and alcohol and has become very successful in his work and personal life. Thank God for the help I was able to get for him. I couldn't do it alone and he's proof he can turn his life around. The things he said that helped him the most was to take long walks and cool down when upset. One day he walked 20 miles but said he was better for it, even if he did have to call collect for me to pick him up. Thank God for Dr. Phil and listen to him, he knows what he's talking about. Judy
angry son
Posted by: seadame
Posted on: 2005-06-08 22:47:06
I was a very angry teen when I grew up so maybe I have some insight. Your son is feeling worthless and is depressed. He needs therapy and so does everyone is your family. He is a the "noisemaker" of the family and the anger is a symptom of problems within the marriage or family. Please seek help for him and yourself. You can heal but it takes asking for help. And don't label him as the "problem" because he is not!
Posted by: seadame
Posted on: 2005-06-08 22:47:06
I was a very angry teen when I grew up so maybe I have some insight. Your son is feeling worthless and is depressed. He needs therapy and so does everyone is your family. He is a the "noisemaker" of the family and the anger is a symptom of problems within the marriage or family. Please seek help for him and yourself. You can heal but it takes asking for help. And don't label him as the "problem" because he is not!
help
Posted by: pblross
Posted on: 2004-10-07 15:05:24
hello there im a 35 year old almost single mom of 3 young children 8 year old son,6 year old twin girl',im having problem' with my son .my life was basically on todays shw oct 7th,i need help and i don't know where to go,i do not have support from my husband he says its my problem,he only acts this way with me and not him,at this point i will do anything dr phil asks and if that is to fly and see him im there.please dr phil help me,mostly help me find away to help my son.thanx laurie...
Posted by: pblross
Posted on: 2004-10-07 15:05:24
hello there im a 35 year old almost single mom of 3 young children 8 year old son,6 year old twin girl',im having problem' with my son .my life was basically on todays shw oct 7th,i need help and i don't know where to go,i do not have support from my husband he says its my problem,he only acts this way with me and not him,at this point i will do anything dr phil asks and if that is to fly and see him im there.please dr phil help me,mostly help me find away to help my son.thanx laurie...
hang in there
Posted by: msdebid
Posted on: 2004-10-07 18:40:59
Since you are an almost single mom, the seperation for the kids is new. But, my son, who was extremely angry and agressive, has grown out of it now. It took a couple of years for him to relearn his behavior, but now he is great.
Posted by: msdebid
Posted on: 2004-10-07 18:40:59
Since you are an almost single mom, the seperation for the kids is new. But, my son, who was extremely angry and agressive, has grown out of it now. It took a couple of years for him to relearn his behavior, but now he is great.
Critical Mom
Posted by: dededavis
Posted on: 2004-10-07 15:05:24
The show hasn't aired on the West Coast yet, but I can't wait to see it. I can definitely relate to the mom who is being critical of her daughter because she wants the best for her. Growing up, nothing I ever did was good enough to please my mom - grades, house work, the way I dressed. We too grew up in a poor community, and I know coming down hard on us was her way of making sure we knew what it was like to struggle. Rarely did my sister or I recieve compliments form our mom, although I know she loved us. Parents should realize how damaging this can be to a child to never feel approved of or worthy. can't wait to see how Dr. Phil handles this one!
Posted by: dededavis
Posted on: 2004-10-07 15:05:24
The show hasn't aired on the West Coast yet, but I can't wait to see it. I can definitely relate to the mom who is being critical of her daughter because she wants the best for her. Growing up, nothing I ever did was good enough to please my mom - grades, house work, the way I dressed. We too grew up in a poor community, and I know coming down hard on us was her way of making sure we knew what it was like to struggle. Rarely did my sister or I recieve compliments form our mom, although I know she loved us. Parents should realize how damaging this can be to a child to never feel approved of or worthy. can't wait to see how Dr. Phil handles this one!
Criticism debilitates
Posted by: txfemale
Posted on: 2005-06-07 16:38:45
My dad was and still is overly critical. I was told I was going to grow up to be bitter and alone. I've spent my whole life trying to overcome the damage. I have a brilliant mind, and quick wit, but I have lost my ability to recover from life's punches (self-efficacy) over the years because I just assume everything is my fault or that I didn't do enough to make everything turn out okay. I also have some of my dad's tendency to criticize.
Your job as a parent is to love and nurture with what you have. If you jacked up your life, it's your fault, don't take it out on your kids. I never had any kids because I didn't feel I could parent effectively because of the way I was parented.
I've had some successes in my life but I have some really rough times too, especially lately. I wish children had outlets for their pain other than their parents. I noticed that the daughter said she didn't feel good about talking to her mother about her feelings and problems. That mother is going to pay a high price if she doesn't reel the child back in.
What a mess we have in this country when it comes to parents and families!!! I try on a consistent basis to encourage my family to lift one another up rather than tearing each other apart. It's difficult. We're so accustomed to doing things the other way.
Posted by: txfemale
Posted on: 2005-06-07 16:38:45
My dad was and still is overly critical. I was told I was going to grow up to be bitter and alone. I've spent my whole life trying to overcome the damage. I have a brilliant mind, and quick wit, but I have lost my ability to recover from life's punches (self-efficacy) over the years because I just assume everything is my fault or that I didn't do enough to make everything turn out okay. I also have some of my dad's tendency to criticize.
Your job as a parent is to love and nurture with what you have. If you jacked up your life, it's your fault, don't take it out on your kids. I never had any kids because I didn't feel I could parent effectively because of the way I was parented.
I've had some successes in my life but I have some really rough times too, especially lately. I wish children had outlets for their pain other than their parents. I noticed that the daughter said she didn't feel good about talking to her mother about her feelings and problems. That mother is going to pay a high price if she doesn't reel the child back in.
What a mess we have in this country when it comes to parents and families!!! I try on a consistent basis to encourage my family to lift one another up rather than tearing each other apart. It's difficult. We're so accustomed to doing things the other way.
