Taking the Next Step: Rules of Engagement

Lisa sought help from Dr. Phil because her relationship with her fiancé was in danger of collapsing.  Here's what she had to say:

In February 2008, my fiancé Scott and I participated in the "The Dr. Phil House: Rules of Engagement" in a desperate attempt to save our relationship. At that time, Scott was struggling with depression, anxiety and possibly bi-polarity. Our issues seemed insurmountable. We were grateful to Dr. Phil when he offered to send Scott to the Dallas PNP Center for an accurate diagnosis, one that could potentially save his life as well as our relationship. On the show, Scott and I won a challenge and the prize was a car.

Lisa gives an update since the show:


photos by James Johnson


In September 2008, I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. My story is like that of so many other cancer victims: shock, loss and devastation. Life changes not only for the cancer patient, but for all of those around them. I am embarrassed to say that I was completely ignorant about cancer and felt side swiped. Soon, I was forced to become educated about ultrasounds, biopsies, ports, surgeons, oncologists, treatments, finances, emotions and everything from A to Z when dealing with cancer.

I endured four invasive surgeries, aggressive chemo and radiation, lost my hair, my breasts, my looks and my car. But, I have gained compassion, understanding, gratitude, grace and most importantly … life.

Throughout all of this, Scott has stood by my side. It's a true testament of his love and commitment when he looks at me as he did the day we met. We are able to laugh about how I look without my wig and breast prosthesis. Scott calls it the "2009 Concentration Camp Barbie" look. At the end of the day, despite all that we have lost, we have a tremendous deep and intimate love for each other and our children and that is all that really matters.

Scott is no longer suffering from depression, anxiety or bi-polar symptoms. He is playing music with friends and locals in his spare time, and we were wed in a small, intimate ceremony on August 14th, 2009.