When Love Hurts

March 19, 2014
Courtney says her husband of five years, Jeromiah, is abusive and was recently released from jail after serving six months for a probation violation, stemming from a domestic assault conviction — yet she says she’s still torn about whether she should take him back. Courtney claims that Jeromiah has thrown her down the stairs, raped her, choked her and punched her in front of their now 15- and 7-year-old children, but she holds out hope that he’ll change. Jeromiah admits that his anger can get out of control but denies the choking and rape allegations and claims it's never gone too far. Courtney’s 15-year-old daughter, Hannah, says she’s witnessed the violence and has begged her mother to leave — and she fears the worst could happen if the couple stays together. Will Courtney get the courage to leave for good? Then, Chris says her abusive husband nearly killed her, leaving her paralyzed. Hear her shocking story of survival and words of warning for Courtney — and Jeromiah. Plus, don’t miss Robin McGraw’s groundbreaking announcement that could save your life and help protect your children, friends and family!  







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Ticking Time Bomb?

Courtney explains the abuse she says she’s suffered at the hands of her husband, Jeromiah.

“I can’t even count how many times I’ve called the police.”

Dr. Phil goes over Courtney's list of what she says Jeromiah has done to her.

Jeromiah admits that he has pushed his wife, given her bruises, kicked in doors, dragged her by her throat and hair, punched her in the nose, thrown hot wax on her, thrown her on the bed and put his knees into her back — but denies punching her in the back of her head. He admits that when Courtney is away from him, he’s consumed by thoughts of her.

Dr. Phil asks him about kicking down the door when his wife tries to go into another room to get away from him. “What gives you the right to do that?” he asks.

“I don’t know,” Jeromiah says. “It’s totally impulsive. I don’t have a register there, that I sit and think about it before I do it. I act pretty impulsively on those levels.”

Dr. Phil notes that the abuse happens in front of their 15- and 7-year old children. He turns to Courtney’s daughter, Hannah, sitting in the audience. “Has he gotten physical with you?”

“He’s pushed me down twice. I don’t think it was intentional, but it has happened,” she says.

Courtney wipes away her tears. “Just hearing it all now, it just sounds so crazy that I would even be here. And I’ve done this to my daughter now, probably my son. It’s not fair to them," she says. Courtney says she doesn't know how to stay away from her husband.

When asked about his drinking, Jeromiah admits that before he went to jail, he was drinking two fifths of vodka a day. He says his drinking interfered with his reasoning and hampered his ability to take care of himself or his family.

“Are you afraid you’re going to kill her someday?” Dr. Phil asks.
 
“No,” he says.

“You should be afraid,” Dr. Phil tells him. “You are a time bomb tickin’, Jeromiah. You seem to have very little insight to this, which means the prognosis will be very poor if you don’t open your eyes up and start figuring out what’s going on here.”
 

A Cautionary Tale for Courtney

Chris says her husband abused her in front of her children too — until he finally did something so horrific, it left her family forever changed.

“All of a sudden, there he’s standing, at the edge of the door, with a gun pointed at me.”

Chris is now paralyzed from the waist down. She tells Jeromiah, “You’re very capable of doing exactly what my husband did. Do you want your wife to spend her life in a wheelchair — or die?”

“I don’t want her hurt at all,” he says.

“I’m not these guys.”

“The hell you’re not!” 

Dr. Phil offers resources to help Jeromiah with his drinking problem and anger issues. “I don’t know whether this marriage is over or not, but it needs to be over unless and until you get those things fixed,” he says.

Dr. Phil tells Courtney that she also has to work on herself as a wife and mother and discover why she’s willing to settle for a violent relationship. “You need to find your way back to the worth and value that you have, so that you can model what you need to model for your daughter and your son.”

Courtney cries. “I just keep thinking what she wouldn’t give to be me right now,” she says, indicating Chris.

“Everything in the world,” Chris tells her.

When Georgia Smiled

Robin announces her new foundation, When Georgia Smiled, The Robin McGraw Revelation Foundation, which is dedicated to empowering women and protecting children. Learn the inspiration behind Robin’s foundation and the defining moment in her childhood that changed her life. 


“I knew I wanted to be just like her.”

Robin explains that her mother died from undiagnosed heart disease at 58 years old. The day she learned of her death, Robin says she had a revelation, “I have to be selfish enough to take better care of myself. She never, ever took care of herself. She never put herself first. I want to be just like her, but I cannot carry on her legacy of self-neglect,” she says. “I take care of myself so I can be here for my husband and for my family, and now for my grandchildren. My goal with When Georgia Smiled, The Robin McGraw Revelation Foundation is for women to live safely and peacefully and joy-filled lives. This foundation is a legacy to my mother and the smile she had for me, and I hope this legacy of hers will live on in other women’s lives.”

The ASPIRE Initiative


Learn about The ASPIRE Initiative, a free domestic violence education curriculum to reduce the level of intimate relationship violence in the U.S. 

Robin explains that The ASPIRE Initiative also contains quizzes designed to teach young adults the difference between love and abuse, and common abuser excuses to look out for.


The ASPIRE News App

Robin also helped develop a groundbreaking new app for smart phones that could save your life or the life of someone you love. The ASPIRE News app is a major development in domestic violence safety.
 
Robin explains, “The ASPIRE app has a function that I call the GO Button that you can activate the moment that you are in danger. Once activated, it will send a pre-typed or pre-recorded audio message to multiple trusted, pre-selected contacts — or even 911 — saying that you are in trouble. And that’s not all. Once activated, your phone will instantly and automatically start recording audio of everything that is going on in the room. So, now you have actual audio evidence of threats or abuse.”

See a demonstration of how the ASPIRE News app could save your life!

Click here to download the ASPIRE News app!

Dr. Phil and Robin surprise Chris with a new state-of-the-art, custom-fit wheelchair from Karman Healthcare.
 
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship and needs help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233).