A Husband Obsessed; A Wife Accused

June 19, 2014
Dr. Phil continues his examination of Mike’s evidence that he says proves his wife, Cindy, has cheated — including polygraph results, STD tests and a DNA test. Are his suspicions justified, or is there something deeper at play? This program contains strong language and sexual content. Viewer discretion advised.

Get caught up with Part 1.








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MikeCindy, Mike's wifeDr. Phil, with Mike and Cindy's son

The DNA Test

Cindy says in Mike’s relentless quest to find out if she cheated, he demanded a paternity test to prove that their 12-year-old son was really his. The test proved that he is the biological father.

Mike tells Dr. Phil that their son was aware of the test. “It killed me to put my son through this,” he says. He admits that their son has witnessed him and Cindy fighting and knows about their money problems. Mike also says that his son grew up believing his father was going to kill his mother, because of what Cindy told him. When Cindy denies she said anything of the sort, Mike grows heated and argues with her.

Dr. Phil interrupts him. “How do you think this interview is going?” he asks.
 
“Not good,” Mike says. “I’m angry.” Mike says it's the main emotion he's shown the last two years.

“Do you think she and I are conspiring against you?” Dr. Phil asks.

“No. It’s why I came here,” he says. Mike says he wants Dr. Phil's opinion on his situation.

The Son in the Middle of the Chaos

Dr. Phil says he’s troubled by the home video of their son screaming at his mother. He asks to talk with him alone, and they agree.

“My mom is a manipulative liar.”

“My mom cheated on him and gave him an STD.”

Dr. Phil tells Mike and Cindy’s son that they both love him very much, and their conflict is not his fault. “I’m making every effort to try to get that situation calmed down … I’m going to try to talk your dad into handling some things differently, but don’t doubt that he loves you very, very much, and your mother loves you just as much,” he says. Dr. Phil urges the boy to try to rebuild a relationship with his mother. “Sometimes, people have opinions, but things aren’t always the way they seem. I think your mom may be getting a bit of a bum rap here. And I think your dad may be having a lot of frustration here, but they both mean well, and they both love you very, very much, and you’re blessed to have two parents who care so much about you … Hopefully we can calm things down at home for you.”

Dr. Phil tells Mike that he’s making a big parenting mistake. “That’s parental alienation, and that is bad.”

Dr. Phil asks Cindy what she wants to see happen.
 
“Dr. Phil, I love my husband, but we cannot continue to go through with the way things have been going. It can’t stay like this. It has to stop. We need to get some help.”

Dr. Phil asks about their money struggles, and Mike admits that he had a gambling problem and has lost $70-80,000.

Cindy says Mike wants her to cash in her pension plan.

Dr. Phil notes that their son seemed to blame Cindy for not doing that. “Does he know you lost the family’s nest egg on gambling?” he asks Mike.

“Yes, he’s heard all this fighting,” Mike says.
 

When Mike turns his anger on Cindy again, Dr. Phil stops him and has Cindy escorted offstage by his wife, Robin.

Dr. Phil tells Mike that he’s wrong about his wife. “If somebody here is creating a problem, it’s you.”

“‘What I fear, I create,’" Dr. Phil tells Mike. "You are destroying the family you think you’re fighting so hard to maintain.” He asks, "If it’s not her, what is it about you that would make this happen?”

“If you say it’s in my head, evidently I have a problem,” Mike says.

Dr. Phil reviews aspects of Paranoid Personality Disorder, which may be what's affecting Mike:

  • Suspects, without sufficient basis, that others are exploiting, harming or deceiving him or her.
  • Preoccupied with unjustified doubts about the loyalty or trustworthiness of friends or associates.
  • Reluctant to confide in others because of unwarranted fear that the information will be used maliciously against him or her.
  • Reads hidden demeaning or threatening meanings into benign remarks or events.
  • Persistently bears grudges (i.e., is unforgiving of insults, injuries or slights.)
  • Perceives attacks on his or her character or reputation that are not apparent to others and is quick to react angrily or to counterattack.
  • Has recurrent suspicions, without justification, regarding fidelity of spouse or sexual partner.
 
“You’re about 6.5 out of seven,” Dr. Phil tells Mike.
 
“I just don’t see it,” Mike says.

“Is it possible that something has happened that has caused you to view the world through a filter that distorts it?” he asks.

“Anything’s possible,” Mike says.
 
“If I’m right, this would be on my short list of considerations. If that’s true, and you got treated for this … then maybe, all of a sudden, you would start to see things differently,” Dr. Phil says. He tells Mike that if gets help, it could keep his marriage together and preserve his relationship with his son. “Because if you don’t change what you’re doing, she’s going to be gone, and he’s going to be gone.”

Dr. Phil offers Mike a full evaluation and treatment at the Lawlis Peavey PNP Center in Texas, as well as professional resources for Cindy, and the two as a couple. “This is a gift, really, to your son,” he says.

They accept.

When Georgia Smiled

Robin recently launched her new foundation, When Georgia Smiled, The Robin McGraw Revelation Foundation, which is dedicated to empowering women and protecting children. She also introduced The ASPIRE Initiative, a free domestic violence education curriculum to reduce the level of intimate relationship violence in the U.S. In addition, Robin also helped develop a groundbreaking new app for smart phones that could save your life or the life of someone you love. The ASPIRE News app is a major development in domestic violence safety.

Learn more about The ASPIRE Initiative and the ASPIRE News app!