"I'm Afraid My Husband is Going to Kill Me"

April 14, 2014
Caitlin says her husband, Jim, abuses her, and she’s scared for her life. Jim admits he has a hot temper but says his wife antagonizes him until he lashes out. Dr. Phil intervenes for the sake of their children. Plus, learn about Robin McGraw’s new purpose-driven lifestyle brand Robin McGraw Revelation — and how you can help victims of domestic violence.

This episode contains strong sexual content. Viewer discretion advised.









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A Violent Relationship

Caitlin explains why she says she’s scared of her husband of one year, Jim, and why she fears he could kill her. And, Jim says Caitlin is the one who antagonizes him and blocks his attempts to leave, so he has no choice but to put his hands on her to get away.

“I’m kind of like a punching bag.”

“She knows what buttons to push.”

Jim tells Dr. Phil that he doesn’t think of himself as an angry person but admits he’s easily provoked.

Dr. Phil goes over Caitlin’s list of abuse she claims she has suffered at the hands of Jim, including having a shotgun pointed at her head. “You pulled a gun on your wife. How does that sound when it’s said back to you?” he asks.

“The same as it did when I did it. I’m not proud of it. I’m ashamed of it,” he says.

“You admit that you punch her, choke her, push her, throw her on the ground and restrain her,” Dr. Phil says. “You admit that you pushed her down and caused a miscarriage. Why is that OK with you?”

Jim says he has been in therapy for the past few years to try to control his anger.
 

An Angry Child

In a previous interview, Jim reveals, “Growing up, a lot of the memories I do have are of my parents fighting. My father, he had a pretty violent temper. I can remember a couple instances when my father went after my mother. She was down, in the corner of the room, trying to cover herself to keep from getting hit. I feel like that’s had an effect on me. In sixth grade, I got put in anger management for the first time. I don’t back down from a fight. I never have. I don’t take * from anybody.” Jim says his anger has cost him a lot in his life, including jobs, and his family often tells him he’s a monster when he gets enraged. “It’s not a good thing,” he admits.

“There is no theory under which a man should put his hands on a woman in anger, period.”

Addicted to Pornography?

Caitlin says Jim is always watching porn — often in front of her — and their daughter has seen inappropriate images. She also says he’s on adult dating sites and has posted intimate photos of himself online.

Jim admits, “I have a problem, and I can’t control it,” but says he doesn’t think watching porn is cheating. “I could be out sleeping around, but I’m not.”

Find out what Jim did to Caitlin while she was sleeping — and her response.

Effects on the Children?

Caitlin says Jim has gotten physical with their 1- and 2-year-old children.

“Caitlin’s worried that I’m getting too rough with the discipline,” Jim says.

Caitlin says Jim is also mean to their kids and that both of them are scared of him. “Our son is almost as afraid of his father as my daughter is. He’ll smack him on back of head and slam him down on his butt,” she says. “If you try to give our children a high-five, they both [cower], and my daughter will actually start crying and run away. It’s disgusting.”

Back onstage, Dr. Phil notes that both of them have noticed a change in their children because of the violent home.

Dr. Phil has a stern warning for the couple — and an offer of help.

Dr. Phil offers the couple professional help through Onsite, a retreat that provides therapeutic and personal growth workshops that address the core, underlying issues that keep couples stuck in dysfunctional patterns. Jim and Caitlin can work on individual issues, such as anger and past trauma, as well as relationship problems, such as communication, negotiation and conflict resolution to heal their marriage and create a healthier home environment for their children. “I think it will change the course of your family,” Dr. Phil tells them.

They accept the offer.

If you or someone you love is being abused, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

Robin McGraw Revelation

Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, is passionately involved in advocating for women and children. Last year, she created When Georgia Smiled: The Robin McGraw Revelation Foundation, which creates and advances programs that help women and children, especially those affected by domestic violence.

Robin has been working tirelessly on developing new her purpose-driven lifestyle brand, Robin McGraw Revelation, and recently launched the first product, a skin care line.

Robin explains the significance to the name of her brand and the exclusive secret ingredient in her skin care line.

To learn more about Robin’s three-step program for healthy skin, go to RobinMcGrawRevelation.com.

Robin is also proud to announce her new lip gloss collection called AveryLasting Love, named after their granddaughter. The first lip gloss, named The Erica, is out now, and still to come are The Elizabeth, The Georgia and The Mae. 

“I’m proud to announce that one hundred percent of the net profits from Robin’s lip gloss line are being donated to When Georgia Smiled, which will directly help those affected by domestic violence,” Dr. Phil says.

Dr. Phil’s studio audience will be going home with a Robin McGraw Revelation 30-day skin care kit, as well as an AveryLasting Love lip gloss.