Quantity over Quality?
Lis, who's been holding her tongue, chimes in addressing Bill. "You seem like such a nice guy, and you probably have all the right motives in the world, but I've got to tell you something, when you have a child, it's not about what you want. It's about what that child needs, and that child needs your money, now," she says.
"There are math teachers out there who are divorced and making child support payments," Bill says.
"Your children have been set at a certain level," Lis points out.
"You're saying he can never pursue other careers and make other choices, and if he were married, he would be allowed to do that," Mel says.
"If they were married, it would be a joint process. Together, they could decide together as a unit," Lis says.
"As long as they could support their child, it would be no one's business," Mel says.
"But we don't know that he can," Lis says.
"My kids have not been living a lifestyle commensurate with my current salary, because so much has been spent on lawyers," Bill interjects. "I think if you ask my children, they'd much rather spend time with me than have, what, a trip to Mexico."
"How much will the payment drop if you make this move?" Dr. Phil asks.
"I don't think that they ever force a woman to take a job that she doesn't want to take," Mel says. "Only 36 percent of non-custodial moms have any child support award ordered against them ... We know as a society, you don't take a woman's children away from her and then tell her, â€˜Send a lot of money. Send it to the man who broke your heart.'"
"Ninety-nine percent of the time, it's the guy who leaves, and it's the woman who has to go after the guy," Lis says.
"It's absolutely not," Mel retorts.