How to Spot a Potential Abuser

Dr. Phil Staff May 25 2023

Relationships/Sex

If you’re afraid that you or someone you love may be getting into an abusive situation, Dr. Phil gives some signs to look for:

  • Excessive and quick commitment to relationships
  • Isolation
  • Extremely possessive and jealous, confused with love
  • Control of all money
  • Name-calling and demeaning
  • Threats against you, your children or of suicide for failure to comply (emotional extortion)
  • Exhibits cruelty to animals or children
  • Takes away choices such as food, fashion, social life
  • Chauvinistic
  • Excessive monitoring
  • Dominating time
  • Extreme sense of entitlement
  • Blames the victim (“They made me do it”)
  • Insecure but presents a false sense of superiority
  • Lack of empathy
  • Hypersensitivity and victim mentality
  • Extreme controlling behavior early on disguised as concern for safety
  • Presents dual personalities
  • Poor communication skills
  • Has unrealistic expectations or demands
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