Are you an unsuspecting sitting duck for a bad girl? Take the following quiz from Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of Bad Girls, and find out! Men:
For each item that describes you, circle the "Q".
Feelings:
- You feel lonely Q
- You feel horny Q
- You feel depressed Q
- You feel bored Q
- You feel isolated Q
- You feel abandoned Q
- You have low self-esteem or a poor self-image Q
- You wish that people would pay more attention to you Q
- You feel unattractive Q
- You feel emasculated Q
- You feel shy or insecure Q
- You are attracted to drama Q
- You put on a façade of invincibility but feel like a nerd inside Q
- You have an unfulfilled yearning to be accepted into a cool crowd Q
- You have a fear of abandonment Q
- You are very trusting Q
- You feel competitive with other men and want them to think you're a bigger stud because you have a hot chick on your arm Q
- You feel guilty (although you may not know why) and like you deserve to be punished Q
- You feel inadequate as a man Q
- You feel unlovable Q
- You have attained material comforts but feel lacking in inner richness Q
Sex and Relationships:
- You have never had a relationship that lasted more than a few dates Q
- Your first love left a whole in your heart Q
- You have just been dumped, and you're still hurting from this break-up Q
- You are still in love with your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife Q
- You have had a string of failed relationships Q
- You are secretly afraid you're not good enough to hold onto a woman of your dreams Q
- You are looking for love but willing to accept sex as a substitute Q
- You get distracted by sex and pretend that it's as good as love Q
- Your girlfriend just left town Q
- Your girlfriend recently moved out of your town or city Q
- You haven't had sex for a while Q
- You have a girlfriend or wife, but she doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated and doesn't make you feel special or like a big man Q
- There is stress or a problem in your current relationship that you would like to escape from Q
- You have a desire to rescue women Q
- You have felt that you were madly in love with a woman, but can't explain why Q
- You have a mad crush on an unattainable movie star or celebrity and are attracted to women who look like her Q
- You are attracted to women who look like an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife who you still long for Q
- You attract women too easily and would like a challenge Q
- You are disillusioned by women and ready to give up ever finding a good woman Q
- You have had a dry spell and long to be back in the game Q
- You have performance anxiety or real sexual performance issues Q
- You have no time to date because you're too busy with work or other commitments Q
- You are longing for a family and hoping to share your woman's family Q
- You need reassurance that you're not the monster your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife told you you were Q
- You are embarrassed to ask friends or family for their opinions or advice about women you date Q
- You want to rebel against your parents by choosing a woman they won't like — even if it hurts you Q
- You don't want children Q
- You are in the middle of a separation or divorce Q
- You are a virgin Q
Current Behaviors/Situations:
- You sometimes smoke pot Q
- You sometimes use other drugs (street or prescription) Q
- You sometimes drink alcohol Q
- You sometimes go to bars Q
- You have an addiction to drugs or alcohol Q
- You recently moved to a new town or city Q
- You recently started a new school or job Q
- You are of short stature Q
- You are very poor or very rich Q
- You are very young or very old Q
- You lost your job or other source of income recently Q
- You are a ladder-climber looking for more money or higher status and would be happy to have a girlfriend give you a leg up Q
- You like to flirt with danger and live on the edge Q
- You get turned away from the hottest nightspots and want a cool-looking chick to help you get your foot in the door Q
- You are intrigued by the media's glamorization of bad girls Q
- Illness, injury or surgery is making it hard for you to take care of yourself Q
- You have ended up in the hospital and were asked for the names of your next of kin Q
- You are an artist or writer or other creative type who needs a benefactor or patron Q
- It is your birthday month Q
- You are having a mid-life crisis Q
- You are distracted by pressing situations in your life, such as financial issues, family matters or property repairs Q
- You don't lie or manipulate, so you don't know what to look out for Q
Childhood:
- You were adopted Q
- You were sexually, physically or emotionally abused Q
- Your parents didn't give you enough love and attention Q
- You grew up in a chaotic household Q
- Your childhood home was too boring or inhibiting of you Q
- As a child you liked to escape into stories of adventure or superheroes Q
- You were raised to be a good boy and not ask questions Q
- There were family secrets that everyone knew not to talk about Q
- You were competitive with and jealous of your sister Q
- You were poor or from the wrong side of the tracks Q
- You were picked last or next to last for sports teams Q
Parents:
- Your parents divorced Q
- Your father was not around during your childhood or was not emotionally available Q
- You were a "mama's boy" Q
- Your mother made you feel unlovable Q
- Your mother abandoned you Q
- A parent became seriously ill during your childhood or recently Q
- Your mother or father died during your childhood or recently Q
- When you were growing up, you wished you could rescue your mother from a situation that was making her unhappy or ill Q
- Your parents remarried during your childhood or recently Q
Scoring Instructions:
1 - 5: You are in mild danger, but not out of the woods. 6 -10: You are in moderate danger; extra caution advised. 11 - 20: You are in serious danger; psychotherapy advised. 21 or more: You are in very grave danger! Do not venture out to the dating front until you have had at least six months of psychotherapy!